During a guest appearance on HBO’s Who’s Talking to Chris Wallace, the 80-year-old Copacabana singer said he didn’t think it was important to announce his sexuality during the earlier decades of his career.
Manilow came out in 2017, almost three years after he married his husband and manager Garry Kief in a private ceremony. The couple have been together for 45 years now, though they’ve kept much of their relationship away from the public eye.
When he came out to People magazine in 2017, Manilow — whose real name is Barry Pincus — worried he’d be “disappointing” some of his fans by revealing his sexuality. Instead, Manilow, who was 73 at the time, said the reaction from his fanbase was “beautiful.”
Despite his current feelings of nonchalance about his own coming out, Manilow said announcing his sexuality as his career was booming would have been a bad idea.
“Now being gay is no big deal,” he explained. “Back in the ’70s it would have killed a career.”
Regardless, the usually very private Manilow said he thinks “everybody knew that Garry and I were a couple all those years.”
“Really, Garry and I’ve been together for so long,” he said. “It just never dawned on me that we’re going to come out. But when we got married, it was a big deal, so we did.”
Manilow credited Kief for saving his life. He said he is thankful he had Kief to support him as his music career was taking off, despite keeping their relationship under wraps.
“As my career exploded, it was just crazy. And, you know, going back to an empty hotel room, you can get into a lot of trouble if you’re alone night after night after night,” Manilow explained. “But I met Garry right around when it was exploding. And I didn’t have to go back to those empty hotel rooms. I had somebody to cry with or to celebrate with.”
Manilow said he did not wish an isolated hotel room for any young people.
“It was pretty lonely until I met Garry. And then it was fun,” he smiled.
Kief is not Manilow’s first spouse. In 1964, Manilow married his high school sweetheart, Susan Deixler. They were married for one year.
Manilow told CNN’s Wallace he “really did love” Deixler, but added “the gay thing was pretty, pretty strong. I couldn’t deny it.”
The singer said he knew he was gay before marrying Deixler, but their marriage ended because Manilow couldn’t be the committed husband his then-wife needed. He revealed that his sexuality was not the reason his marriage failed.
“We had a very nice marriage, it was great, but I was away every night making music, as a young musician would be,” Manilow described. “It wasn’t good for me, and it wasn’t good for her.”
“I couldn’t be the proper husband,” he continued. “I was out making music every night, sowing my wild oats. I wasn’t ready to settle down.”
Brooklyn-born Manilow skyrocketed to international fame in 1974 after his release of the ever-popular pop-rock ballad Mandy. He became one of the biggest-selling musicians of all time. Prior to his success as a singer-songwriter, Manilow was behind a number of famous commercial jingles for brands like State Farm and Band-Aid — a gig that he has said helped him create catchy hooks for his own hit songs.
MY DAUGHTER-IN-LAW TRIED TO SEDUCE MY HUSBAND FOR MONEY — SHE DIDN’T EXPECT HIM TO TELL ME ABOUT IT.
The aroma of freshly brewed coffee filled the kitchen, a comforting scent that usually signaled the start of a hectic workday. But yesterday, it was different. Yesterday, the kitchen held a quiet magic, a warmth that transcended the simple act of brewing coffee.
On the kitchen table, amidst the usual clutter of keys and mail, sat a neatly packed lunch bag. Beside it, a folded piece of paper, its edges slightly crumpled. A note.
My heart skipped a beat as I recognized the familiar, slightly slanted handwriting. It was Colton’s. Our 10-year-old foster son.
We’d opened our home to fostering after years of battling infertility. The empty rooms of our house had echoed with a longing that no amount of well-meaning advice could fill. We wanted to give a child a chance, a safe haven, a loving family.
Colton had arrived a year ago, a whirlwind of boundless energy and insatiable curiosity. He was a dreamer, a boy who found wonder in the simplest things. He loved riding his bike, exploring the neighborhood, and most of all, he loved helping in the kitchen, his eyes sparkling with the ambition of a future chef.
The note was simple, written in his characteristic, slightly misspelled script: “Lunch for you. Have a good day. Love Colton.”
And inside the lunch bag, a perfectly assembled sandwich, wrapped in wax paper, a small bag of chips, and a bruised but perfectly ripe apple.
It wasn’t just a sandwich. It wasn’t just a note. It was a testament to the bond we’d built, a tangible expression of the love that had blossomed between us.
For months, I’d felt a shift within me, a growing certainty that Colton wasn’t just a foster child, he was our son. The way he’d seamlessly woven himself into our lives, the way he’d filled the empty spaces in our hearts, it was undeniable.
That note, that simple gesture of love, solidified it. It was a quiet affirmation of what I already knew.
I shared the note with my wife, Sarah, her eyes welling up with tears as she read it. We looked at each other, a silent understanding passing between us. It was time.
Today, we made the decision official. We’re going to adopt Colton.
The paperwork is already underway, the legal process a mere formality compared to the emotional journey we’ve already undertaken. We’re planning a surprise for him, a small celebration to mark this momentous occasion.
We’ve decorated his room with balloons and streamers, a banner proclaiming “Welcome to your forever home!” We’ve baked his favorite chocolate chip cookies, and Sarah has even prepared a special dinner, a culinary masterpiece that would make any aspiring chef proud.
Tonight, when Colton returns from school, we’ll gather around the kitchen table, the same table where I found his note, and we’ll tell him the news.
I imagine his eyes widening with disbelief, then filling with tears of joy. I imagine him running into our arms, his small frame shaking with emotion.
And I know, with absolute certainty, that this is the best decision we’ve ever made. We’re not just giving Colton a home; he’s giving us a family, a love that’s richer and more profound than we ever imagined.
MY DAUGHTER-IN-LAW TRIED TO SEDUCE MY HUSBAND FOR MONEY — SHE DIDN’T EXPECT HIM TO TELL ME ABOUT IT.
Our son’s wedding was in full swing, and let me tell you, I was tearing up the dance floor with my boy! Seriously, I don’t think I’ve ever danced like that in my life. At some point, though, I realized I hadn’t seen the bride for at least 30 minutes.
Then my husband came up to me, looking tense. “We need to talk. Now,” he said. We stepped outside the hall, and what he told me made my jaw drop.
“I ran into our DIL in the hallway,” he started. “I hugged her and told her how much we love her. But apparently, she took it… differently. She said she loves me too — and even more than our son! Then she tried to kiss me on the lips!”
He continued, “I pushed her away, and she said she understood there might be witnesses here. Then she told me to meet her in her hotel room on the third floor in 20 minutes. I think we should both pay her a little visit.”
In 20 minutes, my husband, our relatives, and I opened the door to her hotel room. write a long story base on that above
The wedding reception was a blur of twinkling lights, joyous laughter, and the infectious rhythm of the band. I was lost in the moment, twirling my son around the dance floor, tears of happiness blurring my vision. It was a perfect day, a celebration of love and new beginnings.
But as the night wore on, a nagging unease crept into my heart. I hadn’t seen my daughter-in-law, Clara, for quite some time. She’d been a picture of radiant happiness during the ceremony, but now, she was nowhere to be found.
Then, my husband, Richard, approached me, his face etched with a seriousness that instantly sobered me. “We need to talk. Now,” he said, his voice low and urgent.
We stepped outside the grand ballroom, the sounds of the celebration fading into a muffled hum. Richard’s words, when he finally spoke, were like a slap in the face.
“I ran into Clara in the hallway,” he began, his voice tight. “I hugged her, told her how happy we were to have her as part of the family. You know, the usual father-in-law stuff.”
He paused, his eyes filled with disbelief. “But she… she took it differently. She said she loved me too. And then, she said she loved me more than our son.”
My breath hitched. “What?”
“She tried to kiss me,” he continued, his voice barely a whisper. “On the lips.”
I felt a wave of nausea wash over me. “No…”
“I pushed her away,” Richard said, his voice hardening. “And she said she understood there might be witnesses here. Then she told me to meet her in her hotel room on the third floor in twenty minutes. Said she wanted to talk.”
My mind raced, trying to comprehend what I was hearing. Clara, our son’s bride, attempting to seduce my husband? It was beyond comprehension.
“We’re going,” I said, my voice firm. “But we’re not going alone.”
We gathered a small group of our closest relatives, people we trusted implicitly. They were as shocked as we were, but they stood by us, their faces grim.
Twenty minutes later, we stood outside Clara’s hotel room, a knot of tension tightening in my chest. Richard knocked, a sharp, authoritative rap on the door.
Clara opened it, her eyes widening in surprise as she took in the crowd behind Richard. She was dressed in a silk robe, her hair slightly disheveled.
“What is this?” she asked, her voice trembling.
“We’re here for that conversation,” Richard said, his voice cold.
We entered the room, the silence heavy and charged. Clara’s eyes darted between us, her face flushed.
“I… I don’t know what you’re talking about,” she stammered.
“Don’t lie, Clara,” I said, my voice low and dangerous. “My husband told me everything.”
Her eyes flickered to Richard, then back to me. “He’s lying,” she said, her voice rising. “He’s the one who came onto me.”
“That’s enough,” Richard said, his voice cutting through the tension. “We’re not here to argue. We’re here to understand. Why?”
Clara’s facade crumbled. Tears streamed down her face. “I needed the money,” she sobbed. “I thought… I thought if I could get close to you, you’d help me.”
“Help you?” I asked, my voice incredulous. “By betraying our son?”
She didn’t answer. She just stood there, her shoulders shaking, her face buried in her hands.
We left her there, alone in her hotel room. The wedding was over, the celebration tainted. Our son was devastated, but he understood. The marriage was annulled, the betrayal too deep to forgive.
The aftermath was a whirlwind of hurt and confusion. But through it all, one thing remained clear: family was paramount. And we would always protect our own, no matter the cost.
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