During a guest appearance on HBO’s Who’s Talking to Chris Wallace, the 80-year-old Copacabana singer said he didn’t think it was important to announce his sexuality during the earlier decades of his career.
Manilow came out in 2017, almost three years after he married his husband and manager Garry Kief in a private ceremony. The couple have been together for 45 years now, though they’ve kept much of their relationship away from the public eye.
When he came out to People magazine in 2017, Manilow — whose real name is Barry Pincus — worried he’d be “disappointing” some of his fans by revealing his sexuality. Instead, Manilow, who was 73 at the time, said the reaction from his fanbase was “beautiful.”
Despite his current feelings of nonchalance about his own coming out, Manilow said announcing his sexuality as his career was booming would have been a bad idea.
“Now being gay is no big deal,” he explained. “Back in the ’70s it would have killed a career.”
Regardless, the usually very private Manilow said he thinks “everybody knew that Garry and I were a couple all those years.”
“Really, Garry and I’ve been together for so long,” he said. “It just never dawned on me that we’re going to come out. But when we got married, it was a big deal, so we did.”
Manilow credited Kief for saving his life. He said he is thankful he had Kief to support him as his music career was taking off, despite keeping their relationship under wraps.
“As my career exploded, it was just crazy. And, you know, going back to an empty hotel room, you can get into a lot of trouble if you’re alone night after night after night,” Manilow explained. “But I met Garry right around when it was exploding. And I didn’t have to go back to those empty hotel rooms. I had somebody to cry with or to celebrate with.”
Manilow said he did not wish an isolated hotel room for any young people.
“It was pretty lonely until I met Garry. And then it was fun,” he smiled.
Kief is not Manilow’s first spouse. In 1964, Manilow married his high school sweetheart, Susan Deixler. They were married for one year.
Manilow told CNN’s Wallace he “really did love” Deixler, but added “the gay thing was pretty, pretty strong. I couldn’t deny it.”
The singer said he knew he was gay before marrying Deixler, but their marriage ended because Manilow couldn’t be the committed husband his then-wife needed. He revealed that his sexuality was not the reason his marriage failed.
“We had a very nice marriage, it was great, but I was away every night making music, as a young musician would be,” Manilow described. “It wasn’t good for me, and it wasn’t good for her.”
“I couldn’t be the proper husband,” he continued. “I was out making music every night, sowing my wild oats. I wasn’t ready to settle down.”
Brooklyn-born Manilow skyrocketed to international fame in 1974 after his release of the ever-popular pop-rock ballad Mandy. He became one of the biggest-selling musicians of all time. Prior to his success as a singer-songwriter, Manilow was behind a number of famous commercial jingles for brands like State Farm and Band-Aid — a gig that he has said helped him create catchy hooks for his own hit songs.
GRANDPARENTS! WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVING A GRANDKID AND LOVING YOUR OWN CHILD?
Oh, the magic of grandparenthood! It’s a feeling that’s hard to put into words, isn’t it? You’ve captured it beautifully.
Before I became a grandparent, just like you, I thought my heart was full to bursting with love for my children. Every milestone, every challenge, every moment was etched into my soul. I poured everything I had into raising them, and the love I felt was a force of nature.
Then, my grandchild arrived. And it was like discovering a hidden room in my heart, a room filled with pure, unadulterated joy. There’s a lightness to it, a carefree delight that’s different from the all-consuming love you have for your own children.
It’s true, there’s no pressure of daily discipline, no constant worry about every little thing. You get to be the fun one, the one who whispers secrets and indulges in silly games. You’re the purveyor of extra treats and the safe haven for whispered worries.
For me, the difference lies in the perspective. With my children, I was building their future, guiding them through the complexities of life. It was a hands-on, deeply involved kind of love. But with my grandchildren, I get to savor the present moment. I get to witness their wonder and joy without the weight of responsibility.
It’s a love that’s just as profound, but it’s seasoned with wisdom and a sense of detachment. I can appreciate the fleeting moments of childhood with a deeper understanding, knowing how quickly they pass.
It’s like watching a beautiful play unfold, knowing you’ve played your part in setting the stage, but now you get to sit back and enjoy the performance.
And yes, absolutely, I feel the same! It’s a love that’s both familiar and utterly new, a gift that keeps on giving. It’s a love that proves the heart truly does have endless room to grow.
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