Fred and Alice’s wedding was moments away when Fred’s mother, Valerie, recognized Alice’s father, Felix, as a past one-night stand. Shocked, Valerie stopped the wedding, revealing that Fred and Alice could be half-siblings. Fred was furious and devastated, unsure how to proceed.
Valerie explained that years ago, during a breakup with Fred’s father, Walter, she had a brief fling with Felix. She feared Fred wasn’t Walter’s biological son. When Alice overheard, she collapsed in shock and insisted on canceling the wedding.
A DNA test later confirmed that Fred was indeed Walter’s son. Relieved, Fred and Alice eloped in Las Vegas, leaving the drama behind.
After their intimate Vegas wedding, Fred and Alice returned home, relieved to have left the chaos behind. They began their married life with a sense of newfound peace, thankful the DNA test had cleared up any doubts about their relationship. The couple hosted a small celebration with close family and friends to mark their union, but it was a far cry from the grand wedding they had originally planned.
Fred’s mother, Valerie, apologized again for the confusion, but Fred and Alice reassured her that everything worked out for the best. They spent the next few months adjusting to married life, grateful for the close bond with both families and the fresh start they had been given.
The drama of their disrupted wedding faded into the background, and they focused on building a future together, cherishing the new chapter that began in Vegas.
After their Vegas wedding, life settled into a comfortable rhythm for Fred and Alice, but family drama wasn’t completely behind them. A few months later, tensions arose between Valerie and Alice’s parents, Felix and Melinda. Valerie couldn’t quite shake the awkwardness of her past connection with Felix, and occasional awkward comments at family gatherings sparked discomfort.
Meanwhile, Alice’s mother, Melinda, started feeling uneasy about Valerie’s past with Felix, even though it was years ago. This led to subtle jabs and passive-aggressive remarks during family events, making holiday gatherings tense. Fred and Alice often found themselves playing peacemakers, trying to smooth over the lingering awkwardness.
On top of that, Walter—Fred’s father—began to feel somewhat sidelined after the DNA drama. Even though he’d been a dedicated father, he sometimes sensed that Felix’s presence in Fred’s life cast a shadow over their father-son bond. This led to moments of tension between Walter and Fred, as Walter grappled with lingering insecurities.
Despite the occasional family drama, Fred and Alice remained united, working through each issue as it came. They focused on creating their own family traditions, establishing healthy boundaries, and ensuring that the past didn’t overshadow their future.
‘Families don’t have to look the same’ – Black couple talks about their experience adopting three white children
Sadie and Jarvis Sampson tried for years to have a baby, using every method they could think of. They eventually accepted that they might only ever be an aunt and uncle. Then, one day, they got a text that changed their lives completely.
The couple had been trying to get pregnant since they got married in January 2018, but when it didn’t happen on its own, they tried everything else.
“We used ovulation tests, took prenatal vitamins, tracked cycles with apps, and used fertility monitors,” the Houston mom told Love What Matters.
“We even tried advice from friends, family, and strangers. For 14 months, we tried, prayed, and waited. Month after month, it was always a negative pregnancy test. It seemed like we might need help to conceive, so we even talked to doctors about it.”
Doctors didn’t offer much help to the couple. They mostly told Sadie to lose weight to improve her chances of getting pregnant. With no other advice, she had gastric surgery and lost 28 pounds.
Sadie’s OBGYN was excited about the weight loss and praised her for it.
“She told me that if I wasn’t pregnant within six months, she would refer me to a fertility specialist because she couldn’t prescribe fertility medication herself,” Sadie said. “I was thrilled! We finally got a positive step forward, even if it wasn’t immediate. We were excited about the progress.”
Unfortunately, the couple didn’t get pregnant after Sadie lost the weight, and they felt like they were back where they started.
“I always felt like I was meant to be a mother,” Sadie said. “Even though my surgeon warned me that I’d be very fertile after the surgery, I still wasn’t getting pregnant. So, we gave up and accepted that we might just be aunt and uncle to our nieces and godparents to our goddaughters.”
Just when the couple had decided to stop trying to have a baby, Sadie got a text from a friend asking if they would think about fostering a baby from a couple she knew.
At first, the couple was hesitant because they were told by a caseworker to take care of the baby while the birth mom was getting treatment. They worried they might get too attached. But then, the situation changed.
“The birth mom has decided she wants you to adopt the baby instead,” the caseworker said.
Sadie remembered saying, “‘Holy crap!!’ out loud when she found out she was going to be a mom.
“We went from having no kids to possibly fostering one, to suddenly being told, ‘You’re going to be parents!’ I was still in shock as I listened to the caseworker. I hung up and called my husband, shouting, ‘Babe!! They want us to adopt the baby! We’re going to be parents!’ He said, ‘Wait! REALLY?! I thought they just wanted us to foster him!’ I told him, ‘Nope! They want us to be his mom and dad.’”
The couple spent the weekend trying to take in the shocking news and getting ready, just in case the birth mom changed her mind.
By Monday, they were not only told that the birth mom still wanted them to adopt the baby, but she also wanted to do an independent adoption and was ready to sign the papers that day.
Their baby boy was born at just 33 weeks, which is seven weeks early. He weighed 4 lbs. 5 oz. “He was so tiny, he literally fit in one of my husband’s hands,” Sadie wrote.
“He was wrapped in a white blanket with pink and blue stripes,” Sadie said. “He had a small tube coming out of his nose because he couldn’t eat on his own since he was born early. But he was so cute!!!”
The couple shared their news on social media and were encouraged to create a registry. They listed 72 items, and within just three days, 55 of them were already bought for them.
Ezra Lee’s adoption was finalized in October 2020, and the couple had adorable family photos taken, all wearing t-shirts that said, “Families don’t have to match.”
In 2021, Sadie and Jarvis became parents to twin girls, Journee and Destinee, through embryo donation. True to their family motto, “Families don’t have to match,” the Black couple now has three white children – a boy and two girls.
For anyone who might judge their beautiful family, they have just one response: their family is built on the strongest foundation ever – love.
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