According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Football Players ‘Deliberately Put Peanuts In Severely Allergic Teammate’s Locker’ In Heartbreaking Incident
After they “deliberately put peanuts into an allergic teammate’s locker,” adolescent football players have come under scrutiny.
At the age of nine months, Carter Mannon’s allergy to peanuts was identified.
He’s managed to lead a regular life and even join the Lake Travis High School varsity football team in Texas by being cautious.
But according to Mannon’s mother, his friends stocked his locker with potentially fatal amounts of peanuts after learning about his allergy.
Shawna Mannon tells People that she remembers the exact moment her son’s allergy became apparent: “My husband was making a peanut butter sandwich right next to him while he was sitting on the counter.” Carter accidentally smeared peanut butter over himself when he reached inside the container.
He immediately developed hives; they were just like his handprint. At that point, we understood, “Oh, he must be allergic.”
His severe allergy was well-recorded at his school.
He had actually had the same symptoms on a previous event when he inadvertently consumed a tainted cookie, necessitating two EpiPen doses and a hospital visit.
Anaphylaxis is a severe, perhaps fatal allergic reaction, according to the Mayo Clinic. The immune system unleashes a barrage of chemicals during anaphylaxis, which may send the body into shock. Breathing becomes difficult due to a quick drop in blood pressure and narrowing of the airways. You can develop a skin rash and a rapid, weak pulse. Additionally, you can feel queasy and throw up.The immediate treatment for anaphylaxis is an injection of epinephrine. It may be lethal if treatment is delayed.
Mannon experienced another frightening event following this shock, and according to his mother, it wasn’t an accident this time.
She claims that Mannon’s comrades chose to pull a potentially fatal “prank” on their fellow member who suffers from severe allergies.
Shawna clarifies: “They were teasing each other a little bit and asked, ‘But could it kill you if it touched you?’” “Yeah, it absolutely could,” he responds. It would cause anaphylactic shock if it got in his mouth, eyes, or nose. He then admitted to them that “yes, it could definitely kill me.”When they returned the following day, just before the game, they found peanuts in his cleats, on his jersey, and in his locker.
“They just kind of scattered a can of peanuts throughout his locker and put it in his cleats,” the source said.
Mannon reacted quickly and severely, breaking out in hives on his arm.
After the event was reported, the males implicated were made to swap locker rooms, bench for two days, and complete extra runs during practice.
Shawna, though, asserts that Mannon received criticism for this.
“The kid would flick him as he’s walking down the hall from behind,” the accuser says. There was a great deal of verbal abuse. Someone once placed a peanut butter granola bar in his backpack while he was in the locker room.
Shawna reported the claimed incident to the school board, but it was determined that it was not bullying.
“Bullying is a very specific behavior under the Texas Education Code, defined as an act or pattern of acts that physically harms a student or materially and substantially disrupts the educational process,” a spokeswoman of the Lake Travis Independent School District tells People. After our study was finished, we concluded that bullying did not meet the legal requirements.
Due to the abuse, Carter has since transferred schools; Shawna said she felt the school was “no longer a safe place for him.”
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