Smaller houses and apartments don’t stop many Japanese couples from sleeping in different beds or even rooms. This is not some kind of an intimate issue or problem with the relationship, but something that they believe is good for them.
We at Bright Side found out why married couples in Japan choose to sleep separately, and we really like their reasons.
They have different sleep schedules.
The first thing that makes Japanese couples decide to go to bed separately is different work schedules. Waking up your significant other just because you got home late from work or have to leave early won’t result in good quality rest for them. This is why spending the night in a different room makes sense. This will give them both an undisturbed and healthier sleep.
Babies sleep with their mothers.
Japanese mothers sleep with their children and this is considered very important, so the father needs to decide if he wants to share the same bed or go to a different room. Even science has proven that co-sleeping can help parents and children get a more restful sleep. It helps the child to maintain a stable temperature and heart rate (which is really critical in infancy) and at the same time, it decreases the chance of sudden infant death syndrome. Also, this contributes to the child having better self-esteem, becoming independent faster, and doing great in school.
For them, sleeping separately means peace.
While many couples who start to sleep alone think that divorce is at their door, the Japanese see it differently. They value their sleep a lot and they don’t want to be disturbed while sleeping. This means that they don’t need and don’t like to put up with snoring, restless sleep, kicking, etc. Even though some don’t have the opportunity to sleep in different rooms, they still wish they could get their beauty sleep.
Couples have a history of sleeping separately.
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Futons are filled with cotton, which provides support and comfort. In the past, only single sized ones were used as beds. So, even if you wanted to cuddle up with your loved one, you would have ended up between the sheets, on the cold floor, and you wouldn’t feel comfortable. Today there are families that still use this type of bedding, especially because it doesn’t take up a lot of space and it is easy to store.
Do you sleep separately from your partner? Do you think this type of practice might be even better for your relationship?
I Overheard My Husband Telling Our 4-Year-Old to Keep a Secret—Days Later, I Discovered the Shocking Truth Myself
Paige loves her career, even if it means being away from home often. After a business trip, she overhears a cryptic conversation between her husband, Victor, and their four-year-old son, Mason. This moment marks the beginning of her marriage unraveling.
Paige and Victor endured four miscarriages but emerged stronger, or so she thought. When Mason was born, he became their focus. Despite Paige’s demanding job as a clothing brand executive, Victor managed their home life, even changing his work schedule to be more present for Mason.
After a three-day trip, Paige returned home eager to see her family. However, the house was quiet, and she overheard Victor telling Mason not to tell her about something that would make her sad. Sensing trouble, she tried to dismiss it but struggled to sleep that night.
On her next business trip, she received a series of photos from Victor featuring Mason with a new toy—and a pair of blue shoes in the background that weren’t hers. Alarmed, she scrolled through more pictures, discovering evidence of another woman in their home.
Returning home, Paige found Mason napping. Upon entering her bedroom, she overheard muffled sounds confirming her fears. When she opened the door, Victor was with another woman, who quickly fled to the bathroom. The confrontation was chaotic, filled with accusations and heartbreak.
Victor tried to shift blame, claiming Paige was never around and needed to consider his feelings. Paige, devastated, realized that her vows had meant something to her, while Victor had betrayed them.
After recounting the ordeal to her family, they encouraged her to have Victor move out. Although he denied the affair, he didn’t contest the divorce, desperately trying to maintain some dignity.
Reflecting on the signs she had ignored, Paige was determined to rebuild her life for herself and Mason. She knew she had to be stronger and smarter moving forward.
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