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The paintings of Italian-born artist Agostino Brunias, who made a profession of depicting the island in subdued, stylized settings that covered up the harsh realities of colonial control, were my first visual introduction to Dominica. However, as soon as I step onto its winding roads, which begin to twist shortly after I arrive, it becomes evident that this region, which is situated in the center of the Lesser Antilles’ curve, is anything but tame. The two-toned leaves of its bois canot trees, which change color from green to white when they sway in the wind, shimmer and bristle with the power of the volcano. It lulls with the erratic sound of its numerous waterfalls, scatters rainbows haphazardly across its breathtaking horizons, and enchants from the depths with its vibrant coral reefs. And it roars come storm season.
The indigenous Kalinago people of Dominica survived invasion by the French and British, who imposed slavery on the Africans who now make up four-fifths of the island’s population and left a linguistic legacy of English and French-based Creole, by mastering the lush tropical rainforest that covers more than 60% of the island. If you visit Trinidad for roti and Jamaica for jerk, you should travel to Dominica for green things like bush rum and flower teas. There are a ton of medicinal herbs in the forest.
The Jungle Bay Dominica resort, located smack dab in the center of the Soufrière jungles, leans into nature instead, maybe realizing the futility of fighting against the earth’s generosity. When I finally get there, the kitchen is closed. Joanne Hilaire, the operations manager, tells me that they never let guests go hungry, though, so I can feel the warmth of Dominica’s welcome. The cook is preparing an excellently stewed dish of beans with taro, rice, and plantain for our late dinner, off the menu, while I have a refreshing ginger-lime cocktail that is a local favorite. When I wake up the following morning, I find that my villa’s doors open onto a private veranda that faces southwest toward Soufrière Bay, where the Caribbean Sea and the Atlantic Ocean converge. I let the light wake me for the remainder of my stay by leaving my blinds open.
MY HUSBAND DYED HIS HAIR BLACK AT 78, AND I THINK IT LOOKS ABSURD. SHOULD I TELL HIM TO EMBRACE HIS AGE?
I pondered my options. Should I confront him directly, risking a potential argument? Or should I subtly hint at my disapproval, hoping he’d get the message? After much deliberation, I decided on a more tactful approach.
I started by complimenting him on other aspects of his appearance. “You look so handsome in that new sweater,” I said, trying to steer the conversation away from his hair. Then, I casually mentioned a news article about the trend of older men embracing their natural gray hair. I emphasized how attractive and distinguished it can make a man look.
He listened intently, a thoughtful expression on his face. I could see the wheels turning in his head. A few days later, he surprised me. He had stopped dyeing his hair! He looked refreshed, more natural, and surprisingly younger.
I realized that sometimes, a gentle nudge is all it takes. Instead of criticizing, I had simply presented a different perspective. And in the end, he made the right choice.
A few weeks later, we were out to dinner with some old friends. As we were waiting for our table, a young woman approached us. She complimented my husband on his “silver fox” look and asked him what hair dye he used. He chuckled and admitted that he hadn’t dyed his hair in weeks. The woman was surprised and impressed.
“You should keep it this way,” she said. “It’s so much more attractive.”
My husband beamed with pride. I couldn’t help but smile. It seemed that everyone else could see what I had been trying to tell him all along.
The incident taught me a valuable lesson: sometimes, the best approach is not to criticize, but to guide and suggest. By gently nudging him in the right direction, I helped him make a decision that not only improved his appearance but also boosted his self-confidence.
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