Jake and Mary Jacobs marked their 70th anniversary of a happy marriage last year, but their journey wasn’t simple.
Mary, who is White, and Jake, who is Black, lived in the same city in 1940s Britain. At that time, there weren’t many Black men there.
Even though Mary’s father told her to leave, Mary chose love over easy choices.
“When I told my father I was going to marry Jake, he said, ‘If you marry that man, you will never set foot in this house again.’”
Mary and Jake first met at a technical college where Mary was learning typing and shorthand, and Jake was undergoing Air Force training. They met during the war when Jake moved from Trinidad to Britain.
Jake impressed Mary with his understanding of Shakespeare, and they got to know each other. One day, they invited Mary and her friend to join them for a picnic. Unfortunately, someone passing by saw them and reported Mary to her father. The woman was shocked to see two English girls talking with black guys. After this incident, Mary wasn’t allowed to visit her father again.
After Jake returned to Trinidad, they kept in touch through letters. A few years later, he came back to the U.K. to find a better-paying job.
Jake surprised Mary by proposing, and she, at 19, said yes. However, when she told her family, they kicked her out.
“I left with only one small suitcase. No family came to our registry office wedding in 1948.”
Mary’s father was upset about her marrying a black man, and Mary didn’t realize that society felt the same way.
The early years of their marriage in Birmingham were tough. Mary cried every day, hardly ate, and they faced many challenges. Nobody would talk to them, they couldn’t find a place to live because nobody would rent to a black man, and they had little money.
Even walking down the street together was hard because people would point at them, Mary explained.
Mary and Jake were excited to become parents, but at eight months, Mary gave birth to a stillborn child. She mentioned it wasn’t due to the stress she was under, but it deeply saddened them, and they didn’t have any more children.
As time passed, their lives improved. Mary became a teacher and eventually an assistant principal, while Jake found a job with the Post Office. They made new friends, but Mary felt the need to explain to people that her husband was black before introducing them.
“My father passed away when I was 30, and even though we reconciled by then, he never approved of Jake,” she shared.
Currently, Jake, 89, and Mary, 84, live in Solihull, a town south of Birmingham. They recently celebrated 70 years of marriage.
Jake said he has no regrets, but he also mentioned that today’s black youth may not fully understand the challenges he faced in 1940s Britain.
“When I arrived in the U.K., I faced abuse every day. Once, on a bus, a man rubbed his hands on my neck and said, ‘I wanted to see if the dirt would come off.’ Back then, working in an office as a black man with white girls wasn’t considered safe,” Jake explained.
Despite all the challenges, bias, and abuse, the pair is still deeply in love and has no regrets about being married. They have been happily married for more than 70 years.
These two are a true inspiration, and I wish them a lifetime of pleasure because of the love they have for one another.
If you see someone wearing these shoes, stop what you’re doing and look around
In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it’s easy to become ensnared in our own trials and tribulations, often forgetting that there are individuals facing challenges far greater than our own.
Every person we encounter is engaged in some form of struggle, whether overt or concealed. This underscores the importance of maintaining constant consideration and treating everyone with the utmost respect.
For me, this principle holds particular significance in interactions with individuals navigating life with disabilities. It’s not about bestowing special treatment or fostering pity; rather, it’s about recognizing the profound inspiration they embody and affording them the respect they deserve.
An essential aspect of demonstrating this respect is acquiring knowledge about the obstacles faced by individuals with various disabilities. Consider, for instance, the visually impaired…
The prospect of losing one’s sight is daunting, as our eyes serve as conduits through which we perceive and understand the world. Yet, there are countless individuals coping with severe visual impairment or complete blindness.
For those living with visual impairment, simple tasks become arduous challenges. Enter Tec-Innovation, an Australian company that has developed a groundbreaking solution: InnoMake shoes.
Reports indicate that these innovative shoes utilize advanced sensor technology to assist wearers in navigating obstacles they may not perceive visually. Equipped with built-in sensors, the InnoMake shoes emit vibrations or sounds upon detecting obstacles, akin to the warning systems in automobiles.
‘According to information shared on their YouTube channel, the shoes feature specialized slots for the sensors, which retain their charge for up to a week after a three-hour charging session. Moreover, they can be synchronized with a smartphone, allowing users to customize settings such as alert preferences and minimum detection distances.’According to information shared on their YouTube channel, the shoes feature specialized slots for the sensors, which retain their charge for up to a week after a three-hour charging session. Moreover, they can be synchronized with a smartphone, allowing users to customize settings such as alert preferences and minimum detection distances.
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