In August 2017, Tony Alarcon’s phone rang unexpectedly.
Like many parents, he thought it might be a telemarketer. But this time, he answered the call.
Hearing from the school can be nerve-wracking for any parent. Tony immediately started worrying—was his daughter, Demetra, okay? Had something happened?
What he found out left him surprised.
It was a hot summer day in Northern California, with temperatures reaching 90 degrees. Tony had dropped off his 13-year-old daughter, Demetra, at school that morning. She wore a blue romper to stay cool in the heat, and neither of them thought the outfit would cause any issues.
Demetra, a student at Raymond J. Fisher Middle School in Los Gatos, California, had simply dressed for the weather.
Not everyone agreed with Demetra’s outfit. A teacher at her school said her romper was “too distracting” for the boys.
When the teacher told Demetra that her outfit was too short, her dad, Tony, rushed back to the school with a change of clothes—jean shorts and a tank top. But the school said those clothes were also inappropriate.
Tony was shocked. He asked Demetra to bend over and touch her toes in front of the school administrator. “Nothing is hanging out. There’s nothing inappropriate. I don’t understand this dress code rule,” he told TODAY.
Still, the school said her clothes were “distracting.” Since it was 90 degrees outside, Tony had no choice but to go to his car and grab a pair of leggings for Demetra to wear.
Demetra felt embarrassed.
Tony expressed his frustration, saying, “She’s just a kid. She’s only 13. She’s not trying to be a sex symbol. She just wants to be comfortable and attend class, but we’re not giving her that chance.”
This wasn’t the first time Demetra had been in trouble for her clothes. Just a week before, she was called out for a visible bra strap. “When I got dress coded last week, they said my bra strap was showing,” Demetra told the *San Jose Mercury News*. “Like, I’m wearing a bra—what’s the big deal?”
Tony, a successful investment advisor and father of two, didn’t let it go. Angry at what he saw as an unfair rule that mostly targeted girls, he took his complaint to social media. Parents from all over the country showed their support, agreeing that the school’s dress code was outdated and unfair to girls.
“Demetra’s not the only one. If you sit in the school parking lot, you’ll see that,” Tony said. “Lots of girls just want to be comfortable, but they feel forced to wear leggings even when it’s 100 degrees outside.”
Tony believed that parents, not schools, should decide if their children’s clothes are appropriate. He was also worried about how being told their clothing is a “distraction” to boys could affect young girls emotionally in the long run.
The story quickly got attention from the media, with major news outlets reporting on Tony’s efforts to change the dress code. While the school didn’t speak on camera, they did release a statement:
“The Los Gatos Union School District believes that appropriate dress and grooming contribute to a productive learning environment,” the district said. “Students are expected to wear clothes that reflect the core values of our learning community.”
Tony’s efforts made an impact. His push for change led the Los Gatos Union School District to reevaluate its dress code to make it fairer and less strict for all students.
Lisa Fraser, the school’s principal, explained that the dress code rules, called “Fashion Faux Pas,” apply to both girls and boys. Some of the rules include no hats or hoods indoors, no visible underwear, no inappropriate logos or words, and shorts must have at least 4-inch inseams.
“There has always been a dress code,” Fraser told a newspaper. “These are basic rules for appropriate behavior. I can set guidelines for the school, but I want them to reflect the community’s values.”
In the end, Tony Alarcon’s persistence started an important discussion about how school dress codes affect young girls — showing that one parent’s voice can truly make a difference.
What do you think about the school’s dress code? Have you or your children faced a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments!
76-year-old Susan Sarandon criticized for her clothing – has the perfect response for haters
Susan Sarandon, a titan of the silver screen and a beacon of individuality, has never shied away from speaking her truth—both on and off the camera. With a career spanning decades, she has captivated audiences with her talent and captivated hearts with her unwavering authenticity.
From her iconic role in “The Rocky Horror Picture Show” to her Oscar-winning performance in “Dead Man Walking,” Sarandon has left an indelible mark on the film industry. Yet, it’s not just her acting prowess that sets her apart; it’s her unapologetic embrace of self-expression.
In an industry often dictated by narrow standards of beauty and conformity, Sarandon refuses to be confined by expectations. Recently, when critics took aim at her fashion choices, labeling them “inappropriate,” Sarandon responded in her trademark fashion—without words.
Instead of engaging in verbal sparring, Sarandon let an image speak volumes. Sharing a photo of herself proudly flaunting her physique in nothing but panties, she effectively silenced her detractors, asserting her right to define her own standards of appropriateness.
But Sarandon’s defiance extends beyond the realm of fashion. At 76, she embraces aging with grace and wisdom, recognizing the preciousness of time and the insignificance of societal norms. Her secret to maintaining youthfulness? A hearty dose of laughter, regular exercise, wholesome nutrition, and, of course, a stellar makeup and hair crew.
Yet, beneath the glamour and accolades lies a woman unafraid to chart her own course. Sarandon surrounds herself with individuals who share her vitality, curiosity, and courage, refusing to waste energy on the trivialities of life.
In a world that often seeks to diminish and confine, Susan Sarandon stands as a testament to the power of self-assurance and resilience. She embodies the spirit of defiance, urging us all to embrace our true selves and carve our own paths, regardless of the naysayers.
As we applaud Sarandon’s unwavering spirit, let us also heed her example—choosing authenticity over conformity, and daring to be unapologetically ourselves. In a society that often seeks to silence individuality, Susan Sarandon’s voice rings loud and clear: be bold, be fearless, and above all, be true to yourself.
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