In August 2017, Tony Alarcon’s phone rang unexpectedly.
Like many parents, he thought it might be a telemarketer. But this time, he answered the call.
Hearing from the school can be nerve-wracking for any parent. Tony immediately started worrying—was his daughter, Demetra, okay? Had something happened?
What he found out left him surprised.
It was a hot summer day in Northern California, with temperatures reaching 90 degrees. Tony had dropped off his 13-year-old daughter, Demetra, at school that morning. She wore a blue romper to stay cool in the heat, and neither of them thought the outfit would cause any issues.
Demetra, a student at Raymond J. Fisher Middle School in Los Gatos, California, had simply dressed for the weather.
Not everyone agreed with Demetra’s outfit. A teacher at her school said her romper was “too distracting” for the boys.
When the teacher told Demetra that her outfit was too short, her dad, Tony, rushed back to the school with a change of clothes—jean shorts and a tank top. But the school said those clothes were also inappropriate.
Tony was shocked. He asked Demetra to bend over and touch her toes in front of the school administrator. “Nothing is hanging out. There’s nothing inappropriate. I don’t understand this dress code rule,” he told TODAY.
Still, the school said her clothes were “distracting.” Since it was 90 degrees outside, Tony had no choice but to go to his car and grab a pair of leggings for Demetra to wear.
Demetra felt embarrassed.
Tony expressed his frustration, saying, “She’s just a kid. She’s only 13. She’s not trying to be a sex symbol. She just wants to be comfortable and attend class, but we’re not giving her that chance.”
This wasn’t the first time Demetra had been in trouble for her clothes. Just a week before, she was called out for a visible bra strap. “When I got dress coded last week, they said my bra strap was showing,” Demetra told the *San Jose Mercury News*. “Like, I’m wearing a bra—what’s the big deal?”
Tony, a successful investment advisor and father of two, didn’t let it go. Angry at what he saw as an unfair rule that mostly targeted girls, he took his complaint to social media. Parents from all over the country showed their support, agreeing that the school’s dress code was outdated and unfair to girls.
“Demetra’s not the only one. If you sit in the school parking lot, you’ll see that,” Tony said. “Lots of girls just want to be comfortable, but they feel forced to wear leggings even when it’s 100 degrees outside.”
Tony believed that parents, not schools, should decide if their children’s clothes are appropriate. He was also worried about how being told their clothing is a “distraction” to boys could affect young girls emotionally in the long run.
The story quickly got attention from the media, with major news outlets reporting on Tony’s efforts to change the dress code. While the school didn’t speak on camera, they did release a statement:
“The Los Gatos Union School District believes that appropriate dress and grooming contribute to a productive learning environment,” the district said. “Students are expected to wear clothes that reflect the core values of our learning community.”
Tony’s efforts made an impact. His push for change led the Los Gatos Union School District to reevaluate its dress code to make it fairer and less strict for all students.
Lisa Fraser, the school’s principal, explained that the dress code rules, called “Fashion Faux Pas,” apply to both girls and boys. Some of the rules include no hats or hoods indoors, no visible underwear, no inappropriate logos or words, and shorts must have at least 4-inch inseams.
“There has always been a dress code,” Fraser told a newspaper. “These are basic rules for appropriate behavior. I can set guidelines for the school, but I want them to reflect the community’s values.”
In the end, Tony Alarcon’s persistence started an important discussion about how school dress codes affect young girls — showing that one parent’s voice can truly make a difference.
What do you think about the school’s dress code? Have you or your children faced a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments!
A Teacher’s Heartwarming Act of Kindness Goes Viral
Beyond the School
Despite being essential members of our community, teachers frequently receive little recognition. Their lives are devoted to instructing, modeling, and guiding the next generation. One such hero is Jonathan Oliver, a physical education teacher at Valdosta, Georgia’s WG Nunn Elementary School, who recently won over many people’s hearts with his kind deed.
A Small Motion That Has a Huge Effect
Kristen Paulk, one of Oliver’s kindergarten students, came up to him during a basketball game asking for assistance. She requested that he restyle her hair into a ponytail. Oliver picked up a basketball, bent over, and immediately set about pulling Kristen’s braids out of her face. He had no idea that Kandice Anderson, a colleague educator, had recorded the touching incident on camera.
Touching Hearts All Around
The moment Anderson uploaded the video to YouTube, it became extremely popular. The video’s title, “When your job goes beyond teaching!” sums it all up.The public expressed their sincere gratitude and support for Oliver. Good Morning America noticed the clip and contacted Oliver to set up an interview.
A Modest Instructor
Oliver said in the interview, “We all do it, so I never expected it to receive so much attention.” “We want the students to have a great time and feel comfortable here. Oliver saw helping Kristen with her ponytail as just another day of providing his kids with the kind of attention they need. We strive to show them love as often as we can.
Beyond Style of Hair
Oliver assisted Kristen with her ponytail even though he isn’t a hair stylist. He made the amusing comment that anything more complicated than a ponytail would mean calling her mother for help. Miyah Cleckley, Kristen’s mother, conveyed her appreciation for Oliver’s gentle disposition. She said, “I always know Kristen is in very good hands with him.” Cleckley, who has one son and five daughters, is grateful for Oliver’s assistance.
We are reminded of the compassion and commitment found in our educational system by educators such as Jonathan Oliver. Even if their good deeds can go unappreciated, their influence is immense.
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