Kate cannot wait to spend the holidays with her son and his wife — it’s her first Christmas with the family. But when Liz criticizes her cooking, and John chooses silence over defending his mother, will the holidays be ruined?
I was always the feeder — especially after I got married, it was always me cooking for every family dinner and during the major holidays, like Christmas. But after Oliver, my husband, passed, I lost hold of that part of me.
Now, I barely cook, just enough to keep myself going, and barely that.
Except during the holidays because this is when my son, John, comes for his annual roast dinner. And then, it’s time for me to shine. But this year, things got very heated in the kitchen.
This was the first year with Liz, John’s wife, joining us. When they were dating, she always went home to her parents instead of visiting us. Which, I’ll admit, is fair because being with your family is everything during the holidays. Anyway, I was intrigued to see how Liz would mix with the rest of our family for the day.
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I got up early and began the Christmas meal, knowing that it would be an early dinner with many side dishes and different desserts to follow. I made the usual Christmas dinner that we’ve done for years — chicken, with roasted potatoes and gravy being the main attraction, but with lots of little dishes. Things that John loved.
But Liz? Oh, she definitely wasn’t a fan.
I was putting the final touches on the chicken when Liz strolled into the kitchen, cell phone in hand, eyeing my cooking. She looked around the kitchen with an expression that looked like she had smelt something terrible. I tried to ignore her because I was already sweating away.
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Then, she hit me with a line that slammed through me. “Hey, Kate,” she said, “maybe we should order food. Not everyone wants what you’ve cooked. I don’t know if everyone enjoys your cooking, either. Every aspect of Christmas is supposed to be enjoyed by everyone. They should enjoy the food, too!”
I was completely blindsided by her words.
I saw John leaning against the archway, nibbling on a carrot. He altogether avoided my gaze, looking over me and out the window across the room. I held back my tears and bit my lip.
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The guests were almost all present, sitting all over the house, and I didn’t want to put a damper on the dinner, even if Liz had hurt me. Dinner rolled around, and the table groaned beneath the weight of the food. My guests, John included, were digging in and singing praises for the food I had been cooking for most of the day.
“The food’s great, right? Everyone’s enjoying it?” John asked the table.
His uncle laughed and helped himself to another serving of roasted potatoes. “Why wouldn’t we enjoy my sister’s food?” my brother said.
“Because Liz said that the dinner might be ruined by Mom’s dishes. She wanted us to order in.”
“Nonsense!” my brother exclaimed, drowning his potatoes in gravy.
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John looked at me and smiled. Which was when I realized that my sweet boy’s silence wasn’t meant to hurt me. No. He was trying to bide his time until he could teach Liz a lesson and embarrass her in front of our family.
Liz turned red from his comment as everyone stared at her. I’ll admit that I felt bad for her. It was her first Christmas with us, and already, it wasn’t looking promising.
Later on, when I was in the kitchen again, packing the dishwasher and emptying dishes of food, Liz came in.
“Kate, I’m sorry,” my daughter-in-law said. “I was so wrong to do what I did. I am sorry, please understand.”
“Understand what?” I asked her.
I did feel bad, yes. But I was still hurt.
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“I only said that because John loves your food. He always talks about how you make all these special things for him. I can’t make a basic mac and cheese without him saying yours is better. I looked at the food, smelt all the delicious smells from this kitchen, and panicked.”
“Liz, you should know that a boy and his mother’s food is a relationship in and of itself,” I laughed, trying to diffuse the tension. “I can teach you how to cook just like me. My mother taught me everything I know.”
“Really?” she asked. “Even after I’ve been so horrible?”
“Yes,” I said with a softening smile.
Then, I led her to the Christmas tree, ready to give Liz her present.
I still think the whole thing hurts me, but I’m grateful she didn’t say what she said for a nasty reason. Liz felt threatened by John’s relationship with my food instead of fostering a relationship with Liz’s cooking.
But I can teach her.
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If the same thing had happened to you, what would you have done? Would you have been silent until the truth came out, like me? Or would you have retaliated immediately?
The Power of a Child’s Empathy
The hum of the classroom, usually a symphony of whispers and rustling papers, was replaced by a heavy silence. Little Sarah stood before the class, her small frame trembling, her eyes brimming with tears. “My mommy and daddy are going to court today,” she announced, her voice barely a whisper. “They’re going to make me choose.”
A collective gasp filled the room. The children, their faces etched with innocent concern, looked at Sarah, their eyes wide with unspoken questions. I felt a lump form in my throat. How could I, a grown adult, possibly soothe the pain of such a profound loss?
I knelt beside Sarah, gently placing an arm around her shoulders. “It’s going to be okay, sweetie,” I murmured, my voice as reassuring as I could manage. “We’re all here for you.”
I did my best to steer the class towards our morning routine, hoping to create a sense of normalcy amidst the emotional turmoil. But the air in the room remained thick with unspoken worry.
Later, as the children worked on their art projects, I noticed Sarah by the cubbies, her small body shaking with quiet sobs. She was hugging a classmate, a little boy named Michael, who was also crying softly. My heart pounded. Had something happened? Had the weight of her situation become too much for her to bear?
I rushed over, my voice laced with concern. “Sarah, Michael, what’s wrong?”
They looked up at me, their faces stained with tears, but their eyes held a strange sense of calm. Then, Michael held out a crumpled piece of paper.
“She was sad,” he mumbled, his voice thick with emotion. “So I wrote her this.”
I unfolded the note, my hands trembling. In uneven, childlike handwriting, it read:
“Don’t worry. Whatever happens, it’s in God’s hands.”
The simplicity of the message, the profound depth of its compassion, hit me like a wave. Tears welled up in my eyes, blurring my vision. These two children, barely old enough to tie their own shoes, had shown a level of empathy and understanding that surpassed anything I had witnessed in years.
I had spent my life trying to impart wisdom to these young minds, to guide them through the complexities of the world. But in that moment, they had taught me a lesson I would never forget.
As I drove home that afternoon, the image of Sarah and Michael, their tear-streaked faces and the crumpled note, remained etched in my mind. I felt an overwhelming sense of pride, a deep appreciation for the little family we had built in our classroom.
We often underestimate the power of a child’s heart, their capacity for love and understanding. We dismiss their emotions as fleeting, their words as naive. But that day, I witnessed the true essence of compassion, the pure, unadulterated empathy that resides within the hearts of children.
I realized that my role as a teacher was not just about imparting knowledge, but about fostering kindness, nurturing compassion, and creating a safe haven where these small hearts could flourish. And I knew that even on the toughest days, when the noise and chaos threatened to overwhelm me, I would always remember the crumpled note, the tearful hug, and the unwavering belief that, in the face of adversity, love and compassion will always prevail.
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