As many married couples can attest, the journey towards parenthood is one that is often envisaged as being shared equally between both partners. I held a strong conviction that my pregnancy would be a time of shared joy and responsibility with my husband. I imagined us attending each prenatal appointment together, his hand in mine, as we listened to the heartbeat of our unborn child, eagerly discussing our future with excitement and tenderness. Sadly, the reality I faced was starkly different. It became increasingly apparent that my husband was more inclined to prioritize his social life and personal interests, repeatedly sidelining our important prenatal milestones. This recurring pattern of neglect ultimately pushed me to a point where I felt compelled to teach him an unforgettable lesson.
From the moment we discovered I was pregnant, it felt as if we had stepped into a dream. For years, my husband and I had looked forward to starting a family, and now, it seemed our dreams were finally coming to fruition. The news came to us during a short romantic getaway, which felt like the universe’s way of telling us that our lives were about to change for the better. We knew that the journey ahead would be fraught with challenges, but we were ready—or so I thought—to face them together.
In the early weeks, my excitement was palpable. I approached every aspect of pregnancy with a positive spirit, even the less pleasant moments like morning sickness, because I believed that having my husband’s support would make the challenges manageable. However, his lack of involvement soon became evident. It seemed he viewed the pregnancy as my sole responsibility, an ordeal I must face alone while he maintained the freedom of our pre-parenthood days.
During the first trimester, there were nights filled with discomfort and restlessness, where the cold bathroom floor became my refuge. Meanwhile, my husband slept soundly, undisturbed and seemingly oblivious to my struggles. Even a simple gesture of fetching a glass of water seemed too much to ask of him. I found myself growing resentful, feeling abandoned in what was supposed to be our shared journey. I couldn’t help but think, “If I am already doing the job of being pregnant, the least he could do was rub my feet, or help when I am dealing with the worst nausea. I mean the child is not only his when it’s born.”
Our excitement soon soured into tension and frequent arguments. I had hoped that we would at least be able to share the experience of prenatal appointments, but my husband’s attendance was sporadic. He often opted out, preferring to engage in leisure activities with his friends. His excuses were flimsy, and whenever I expressed my disappointment, he dismissed my concerns with a shrug, saying, “I’m not the one carrying the baby, why do I have to go see the doctor with you?”
The turning point came when we were scheduled to attend an appointment to learn the gender of our baby. This was a moment I had envisioned as a milestone for us as a couple, an experience that would further bond us to our child. However, at the last minute, he decided to skip the appointment to enjoy a casual meal of fish ‘n’ chips with a friend. I was devastated and furious, but I managed to keep my composure. Instead of him, my mother accompanied me, and together, we discovered that we were expecting a daughter.
Resolved to make my husband realize the significance of his absence, I planned a poignant reminder for our gender reveal party. I commissioned a cake that was outwardly ordinary, decorated with question marks. However, hidden inside was a unique twist meant to symbolize his recent choices.
At the party, surrounded by friends and family, I asked my husband to do the honors of cutting the cake. As he sliced through the cake, out poured not the traditional blue or pink hues but miniature, edible fish ‘n’ chips. The symbolism was not lost on anyone—this was the meal he had deemed more important than attending the gender reveal of his own child. The room erupted in laughter, and while the atmosphere was light, the message hit home. It was a playful yet serious reminder of what he had missed. Taking advantage of the lighthearted mood, I expressed how crucial it is for us to support each other, especially during such a transformative phase of our lives.
Following the laughter and initial surprise, I presented the real reveal—a second cake, this one intricately decorated in soft pastel colors with delicate baby footprints. Together, we cut into it, revealing a beautiful soft pink interior. The room cheered, “It’s a girl!” The joy and excitement were overwhelming, and it was clear that the message had been received.
The realization of what he had been neglecting seemed to dawn on my husband. His apology that night was heartfelt, and from that day forward, he became a more present and involved partner. He attended every subsequent appointment without fail, and his newfound commitment to our prenatal journey was unmistakable.
As we continued to prepare for the arrival of our daughter, the atmosphere in our home shifted from one of tension to one of eager anticipation. We started planning the nursery, selecting each piece of furniture with care. My husband took particular interest in building some of the furniture himself, showcasing a level of engagement that was both surprising and heartening.
The incident with the fish ‘n’ chips cake became a legendary story within our family, a humorous but poignant reminder of the importance of being present and supportive. It served not only as a lesson for my husband but also as a reminder to both of us about the significance of shared experiences and mutual support in our marriage.
Reflecting on the journey, it became clear that the challenges we faced were not merely obstacles but opportunities for growth. They strengthened our relationship, deepening our understanding and appreciation for one another. As we awaited the arrival of our daughter, we were not just preparing to be parents but also learning to be better partners to each other. This experience, though fraught with initial misunderstandings and adjustments, ultimately enriched our bond and reinforced the foundation upon which our growing family would stand.
Step into the royal mansion of Kris Jenner, 68, and husband Corey Gamble, 43, in California’s six-bedroom, eight-bathroom home where they live out the rest of their lives with love
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It’s difficult to keep up with the Kardashians, but one designer rose to the occasion by completely renovating Kris Jenner’s six-bedroom, eight-bathroom Hidden Hills, California home. Interior designer Jeff Andrews, who has built the homes of Kourtney, Khloe, and most recently, Kylie, brought Jenner’s concept of a chic yet sophisticated family base camp to life. Andrews’ work is dripping with old Hollywood elegance and richly sumptuous decor. Andrews created what Jenner refers to as “livable glamour,” which allowed her ideal house to become a reality.
Is it true that one house can fit all? The Kardashian-Jenner residence was intended to be a family gathering place, as they have six children and four (soon to be five!) grandkids. “Kris is a fantastic chef, and having a large family meant that the kitchen needed to be both aesthetically pleasing and functional for entertaining,” adds Andrews.The Kardashian-Jenner home is ideal for opulent living, from the glistening crystal chandeliers over the formal dining table to the master bathtub where everything glamorous and beautiful happens.View Photos of Kris Jenner’s House in the Hidden Hills
This spectacular entrance is just another example of how the creator of the reality TV series Keeping Up with the Kardashians never fails to create an impression. Sophisticated Hollywood elegance is exuded by the vintage modern chandelier, multiple staircases, and a black and white checkered floor.
In her family-style kitchen, Jenner prepares classic Kardashian-Jenner family recipes from her cookbook In the Kitchen with Kris ($22; amazon.com). Dedicated to providing food for her expanding family consisting of children, grandchildren, friends, and even her ex-partners, the kitchen features numerous islands and ample countertop space ideal for large gatherings.
The perfect hostess, Jenner added her own unique touches to her dining table. Andrews explains, “Kris had several chandeliers strewn all over the house, so I grouped three of my favorites above the dining table in a subtle, glamorous way.”
According to Andrews, “livability is, to me, having rooms that are loved, used, and visually appealing, but also rooms that you want to be in.” We would love to spend time in the Kardashian-Jenner home’s living room, which has luxurious furnishings and a huge antique fireplace!
Being a “momager” has its challenges, so this working mother manages her time well with her chic workspace. “Her office needed to be both functional and a reflection of her personality because she uses it every day for meetings and as her personal space,” adds Andrews.
A high-class closet is necessary for a high-profile lifestyle. Jenner’s wardrobe boasts a mirrored center island, patterned ceiling, and specific storage shelves with a Birkin to match every blazer—it has plenty space to hold more shoes than we could ever want.
With a focus on a limited color scheme that includes black, white, gray, and a dash of neutral and metallic colors, Andrews claims that “everything works together in harmony.” The main bedroom exudes sophisticated glamor, adorned with cashmere, rich wools, and silk. “Kris enjoys opulent, incredibly tactile, and well-made items,” he continues. “Her house exudes her personality everywhere.”
Jenner has a cosmetics, clothing, and glam area in her master bathroom. The master bathroom, one of the main focus areas for the renovation, strikes a mix between style and utility.
Although even the busiest families find time to unwind, Jenner’s garden is well-known for much more. Jenner’s patio was designed to entertain, as seen by her 58th birthday celebration held there and her yearly, lavish Christmas party.
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