Being a parent to a cocky, disrespectful teenager is far from easy, and different parents have different approaches to getting their children to behave.
One mom, Heidi Johnson, wrote a handwritten letter to her son, Aaron, and shared it on Facebook. She didn’t intend for the post to go viral. She didn’t even intend to make the post public. It was supposed to just be for friends to see, but she does not regret her post or the fact that it’s public.
In the letter to her 13-year-old son, Johnson reprimanded her son treating her like a “roommate.” She went on to give him an itemized bill for rent, food, etc that totaled over $700. If he was going to treat her like a roommate instead of his mom, she would do the same.
Johnson signed the note, “Love Mom,” and she truly does love her son. She followed up the post with another post explaining some backstory to the situation.
She also reassured parents who were criticizing her that “I am not going to put my 13 year old on the street if he can’t pay his half of the rent. I am not wanting him to pay anything.
I want him to take pride in his home, his space, and appreciate the gifts and blessings we have.”
She added that she never intended for Aaron to pay the bill. Instead, she wanted him to “gain an appreciation of what things cost.”
The reason Johnson wrote the note was to make sure her son understood “what life would look like if I was not his ‘parent,’ but rather a ‘roommate.’ It was a lesson about gratitude and respect from the very beginning.”
Johnson also explained that before she wrote the note, her son had lied about doing his homework, and when she told him she was going to restrict his internet access, he responded, “Well, I am making money now.”
She explained that the money he was referring to was a little bit of income he was making from his YouTube channel, but not nearly enough to pay for food and rent.
The public note has not hurt Johnson’s relationship with her son. She explained, “He and I still talk as openly as ever. He has apologized multiple times.”
Johnson has also had parents turning to her for advice since she posted the note to her son.
She explains, “My post seems to have opened a door, and people feel safe coming to me and asking for advice, venting, or even just have someone bear witness to their experience by listening and opening up and sharing a piece of myself in return.”
Jenny, a proud cowgirl, wanted to surprise her husband, Mike, with a fun photo, but…
Jenny, a proud cowgirl, wanted to give her spouse Mike a funny picture as a surprise. She captured the scene to share with him while sitting in the back of a pickup truck, all out in cowgirl attire. She was unaware that this innocuous gesture would have such a profound effect.
Jenny showed Mike the photo with great excitement, knowing he would appreciate the lighthearted surprise. Mike was taken aback to discover, upon closer inspection, that Jenny had removed her wedding ring.
He became suspicious and tried to investigate by enlarging the picture. He was surprised to see more than just Jenny dressed like a cowgirl through the pickup truck’s rear window. The man’s face was visible in the reflection.
Mike was taken aback upon seeing Jenny’s 19-year-old ex-boyfriend.
Mike questioned Jenny about her ex-boyfriend’s unexpected appearance in the photo, feeling bewildered and hurt. Jenny acknowledged the seriousness of the situation and claimed that it was only a fortuitous meeting. She had not noticed the mirror, and the photographer happened to be her ex-boyfriend.
On the other hand, Mike began to doubt their marriage after hearing the news. What was supposed to be a happy surprise took on an unexpected degree of stress when Jenny’s ex-boyfriend unexpectedly showed up in the shot and there was no wedding ring. In the midst of an emotional breakdown, Mike made the decision to divorce Jenny.
The trust that had kept their marriage intact had been destroyed by the seemingly harmless cowgirl shot. Jenny and Mike had to deal with the unanticipated consequences of a picture that had taken an unexpected turn while they negotiated the difficulties of divorce.
The event was a sobering reminder that in a relationship, even seemingly insignificant details may matter. It was shown how important it is to have trust, communicate, and understand one another, and how unforeseen circumstances can occasionally result in actions that change people’s lives.
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