A woman was utterly surprised when her Uber driver offered her an unsolicited tip on how to care for her remarkable skin.
Celebrating her striking beauty, the fashion icon, famously known as the “Queen of the Dark,” responded with laughter, dismissing his remarks with ease.
Read on to discover what the Uber driver said and how she transformed the situation into a learning opportunity!
Having spent her early years in refugee camps in Ethiopia and Kenya, Nyakim Gatwech envisioned America as a “heaven on earth.”
However, upon arriving in Buffalo at the age of 14, Gatwech found herself often alone, crying over the harsh judgments she faced due to her deeply pigmented skin.
Based in Minnesota and originally from South Sudan, the model endured years of bullying for her radiant dark complexion, with comments like, “You don’t take showers. That’s why your skin is dirty,” or, “Smile so we can see you, Nyakim. We can’t see you.”
“In class, for example, the teacher would ask a question and say, ‘Oh, Nyakim, can you answer that?’ A kid would say, ‘Who are you talking to? We can’t see her. She’s not here.’ The whole class would start laughing, and I would just cry,” the now 31-year-old woman shares with Cosmopolitan.
As a young girl desperate to fit in, it was tough when random men would bet on whether she was wearing leggings or if her skin was genuinely that dark.
“At one point, I did consider [bleaching my skin]. When I came to America from a refugee camp in Africa [at age 14], I lived in Buffalo, New York. I would cry myself to sleep after being bullied [about my skin],” she says. “There are so many beautiful dark-skinned Sudanese women who bleach their skin.”
Gatwech revealed that her own sister was among those who bleached their skin. “My own sister did it. But when I told her I wanted to [after living in America for a few months], she told me no. ‘I’m not going to let my daughter do it, or you, nobody.’”
Queen of the Dark
Now hailed as the Queen of the Dark, this woman – who has faced discrimination from designers, makeup artists, and even fellow models – feels empowered by overcoming negativity.
Gatwech’s confidence and profound love for her deep chocolatey skin are supported by her 962,000 loyal Instagram followers.
“My chocolate is elegant. So is what I represent… A nation of warriors,” she writes in one post.
Fans are captivated by her striking beauty.
“Omgggggg I love your skin and melanin,” one fan comments, while another says, “love your beautiful skin tone so much! God makes beautiful creations such as you to remind us of His magnificence!”
Responding to the overwhelming support, Gatwech states, “I grew to learn to love myself… Now, I am not bothered by it [the negativity]. I accept my skin, I love myself, and I’m not insecure about my skin anymore. I don’t think I’m ugly anymore. I have confidence in myself.”
‘Stupidest questions’
A few years ago, Gatwech recounts an encounter with an Uber driver who asked if she’d ever consider bleaching her unique skin.
“He said, ‘Wow, you’re dark,’” Gatwech tells Cosmopolitan about her conversation with the driver. “I just laughed. I wanted to know why he thought I should. He said because life would be easier for me. It would be easier for me to be in a relationship, or guys would be more attracted to me if I was lighter. If I was going to a job interview, I would get the job opportunities because I’m lighter. I just said, ‘[Even if] being lighter would make my life easier, I’d rather take the [hard] road.’”
She adds, “I’m accustomed to people asking the most absurd questions about my skin.”
Gatwech then shared her story on Instagram, accompanied by a stunning photo of herself with three other dark-skinned Sudanese women.
She wrote, “A nation with people so dark you won’t believe your eyes… skin so rich and teeth so bright. Gosh, how I love my country, my people, and everything that comes with it.”
She detailed her encounter with the Uber driver: “[SIC] I was asked by my Uber driver the other day, he said, ‘Don’t take this offensively, but if you were given 10 thousand dollars, would you bleach your skin for that amount?’ I couldn’t even respond; I started laughing so hard. Then he said, ‘So that’s a no?’ and I was like, ‘Hell to the f*cking yeah, that’s a no. Why on earth would I ever bleach this beautiful melanin God blessed me with?’ Then he asked, ‘So you see it as a blessing?’”
Her followers quickly responded with praise and support.
“I guess he didn’t get the memo… black is beautiful,” one fan commented.
“I love you for loving you,” shared another. A third added, “Why would we ever want to mess up something so beautiful?”
When asked by Yahoo Beauty what advice she would give to young black girls facing similar challenges, she said, “You are beautiful, you are unique, and there are people who love you just the way you are. They say the darker the berry, the sweeter the juice. Embrace your darkness!”
SIL Ruined My Wedding Dress on Purpose – No One Believed Me until I Exposed Her on My Wedding Day
On the day before my wedding, I discovered my $8,700 dress had been sabotaged by my sister-in-law, Beth. As the truth unfolded amid the ceremony’s joy, an unexpected confrontation and a secret recording revealed Beth’s shocking motive, leaving the outcome of my wedding day hanging in the balance.
I stood in front of the mirror, anxiety churning in my stomach. My wedding dress, the one I had dreamt about for years, had looked perfect in the bridal shop. Now, hanging on my bedroom door, encapsulated in a fine white crepe, it felt surreal.
“Grace, how’s your dress looking?” Jack called from downstairs.
“Almost dressed!” I shouted back, my hands trembling as I smoothed the fabric.
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Beth, my soon-to-be sister-in-law, had offered to alter my dress for free weeks ago. Her reputation as a skilled seamstress preceded her, yet something about her offer felt off. But with our wedding budget maxed out, I accepted.
“I still can’t believe Beth is doing this for you,” Mom had said, with skepticism in her voice.
“Yeah, it’s very generous,” I had replied, masking my doubts.
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I slipped into the dress and began to zip it up, but something felt wrong. The bodice was misshapen, seams gaping. The delicate lace was crudely cut, threads hanging loose. My excitement turned to horror.
“Oh my God,” I whispered to myself, tears welling up.
“Grace, what’s wrong?” Jack asked from downstairs, concern in his voice.
“The dress is ruined,” I choked out, trying to hold back sobs.
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“What do you mean? Let me see. I want to check it myself,” he said, starting up the stairs.
“No, Jack, you can’t. It’s bad luck to see the dress before the wedding.”
“Are you sure? Maybe it’s not as bad as it looks,” he insisted, stopping at the door.
“It is. It’s destroyed. How could she let this happen?” I said, my voice breaking.
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“Are you sure it wasn’t a mistake?”
“No,” I said to myself as much as to Jack, my voice barely a whisper. “This isn’t just an accident. She butchered it.”
Jack’s voice softened. “We’ll figure it out, okay? We have to.”
I called Beth, hands trembling. “Beth, what happened to my dress?”
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“What do you mean?” she asked, feigning innocence.
“It’s destroyed. How could you let this happen?”
“Grace, calm down. I’m sure it’s not that bad. Maybe you’re overreacting.”
“I’m not overreacting. It’s unwearable.”
“Look, I’ll come over and fix it.”
“No, Beth. You’ve done enough.”
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I hung up, fury and despair warring within me. How could she do this? I thought of our strained conversations, her snide remarks. It all made sense now.
“I need to call my mom,” I said, my voice shaking.
Jack’s voice was firm through the door. “We’ll get through this, Grace. We won’t let her ruin our day.”
My parents arrived soon after, shocked and saddened by the state of the dress.
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“We’ll find a way,” my mom said, although her eyes reflected my own doubts.
The next few hours felt endless, filled with a whirlwind of emotions and desperate attempts to find a solution. The following day was supposed to be the happiest day of my life. Instead, it felt like a nightmare I couldn’t wake up from.
As dawn broke the next day, I resolved to expose Beth’s deceit. She wouldn’t get away with this. Not on my wedding day.
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I decided to take matters into my own hands. I couldn’t let this ruin my wedding day. With no other choice, I rushed to the nearest bridal shop and bought a new dress. It wasn’t my dream dress, but it would have to do.
The wedding preparations went into overdrive. The air buzzed with excitement and the scent of fresh flowers. I slipped into my new dress, feeling both nervous and determined. The memory of the destroyed dress still stung, but today was my day.
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The guests arrived, their curious glances lingering on my gown. I spotted Beth among them, her eyes widening in shock. She quickly masked her reaction, but I saw the flicker of anger.
As the ceremony proceeded, we gathered for the official photos. My family lined up for the “all-family photograph,” everyone smiling for the camera. Beth stood beside me, her smile rigid. The photographer positioned us, urging us to hold our smiles.
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“Grace, why didn’t you wear the dress I altered for you?” Beth muttered through clenched teeth, her smile never wavering. “Do you not appreciate all the hard work I put into it?”
I kept my smile fixed, my voice low. “Beth, the dress was unwearable. It was completely ruined.”
“Ruined?” Beth hissed, her eyes glinting with malice. “I spent hours on that dress! You obviously don’t value my effort.”
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“Beth,” I said calmly, though my insides churned, “since you thought the altered dress was so well done, why don’t you wear it to your own wedding? Consider it my gift to you.”
Beth’s face turned a deep shade of red, but she held her smile for the camera. The photographer finally snapped the picture, everyone relaxed, and Beth stormed off to find space among the crowd of onlookers with Adam, her fiancé.
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I turned to the wedding videographer, who had been capturing candid moments. “Could you film over there?” I asked, pointing to Beth and Adam. “I want to remember everything about today, even the behind-the-scenes moments.”
The videographer nodded and moved closer to them, his camera discreetly in hand. A little while later, he approached Jack and me inconspicuously. “I think you’ll want to see this,” he said, showing us the footage on his camera.
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The video audio revealed Adam asking Beth, “Why are you so upset? Getting an $8,000 wedding dress for free is great news!”
Beth’s response was a low, bitter hiss. “No, I tried my best to make it ugly, and now it’s mine, she gave it to me. What am I supposed to do with a ruined wedding dress?”
My heart raced as I processed the confession. I turned to Jack, feeling both vindicated and saddened. He squeezed my hand, his eyes filled with support.
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“We need to show this to everyone,” Jack said.
We moved to the vestry to sign the marriage register, the minister guiding us through the formalities. The room was small, intimate, filled with family and close friends. The air felt thick with tension and anticipation.
The videographer positioned himself carefully, ready to capture everything. As the minister handed me the pen, I took a deep breath. “Before we continue, there’s something everyone needs to see,” I announced, my voice steady, and with a nod at the videographer.
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The videographer played the recording. Adam’s voice filled the room, asking Beth why she was upset about getting an expensive dress for free. Her response, full of frustration, was clear: “What am I supposed to do with a ruined wedding dress?”
Gasps filled the vestry. My family stared at Beth in shock, their disbelief turning to anger. Adam stepped away from Beth, his face a mask of confusion and humiliation.
“Beth, how could you?” my mom whispered, her voice trembling.
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Beth’s eyes darted around, but she found no support. “I just… I wanted a dress as nice as that for myself, but there’s no way in hell my family could afford it,” she muttered, her bravado crumbling.
“I’m so sorry, Grace,” my dad said, his voice heavy with regret. “We should have believed you.”
“It’s okay, Dad,” I replied, feeling a wave of relief.
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The minister cleared his throat, bringing us back to the moment. “Shall we proceed?” he asked gently.
With a renewed sense of solidarity, we signed the register. The burden of Beth’s betrayal was lifted, replaced by the warmth of family and friends who stood by us.
Beth stood alone, her reputation in tatters. As we left the vestry to continue the celebration, I glanced back at her, feeling a sense of closure.
Despite the drama, Jack and I enjoyed our wedding day, surrounded by love and support. The ordeal had made us stronger, more resilient.
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