A three-year-old throws tantrums and begs his mother not to go to daycare. Worried, she goes in unannounced and what she sees shocks her.
“No, mommy, no!” Johnny threw himself on the floor and started screaming. Marla Evans sighed. Not again! She looked at her watch. If he threw a full tantrum, she would be late yet again.
She gazed at her three-year-old with exasperation. Johnny had been going to daycare for two years and always loved it. For the last week, out of the blue, he’d been making a scene, begging Marla not to take him.
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She’d spoken to her pediatrician, and the doctor had told her that toddlers often went through the ‘terrible threes.’ “Stop it!” Marla heard herself scream, then she saw the look of fear in her son’s eyes. Something wasn’t right.
Marla sat down on the floor next to Johnny and coaxed him into her lap. He sobbed, pressing his little face against hers. Marla decided this was more than a tantrum, but what could be wrong?
“Honey,” Marla said gently. “I’m sorry. Mommy didn’t mean to snap.” She rocked him until he stopped crying and asked gently, “Why don’t you like daycare anymore?”
Raising a child is about setting and respecting boundaries.
Johnny shivered in her arms and whispered, “I don’t like!”
“But why, sweetie?” Marla asked. “Are the other kids mean?” But Johnny wouldn’t answer. Marla sighed. “Baby, mommy needs to go to work, but I tell you what… I’m going to come and get you from daycare early today, OK?”
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Johnny sat up in her lap. “No lunch?” He looked up at her anxiously. “No lunch, mommy?”
Lunch? The worried mom frowned. What was happening with her son?
Marla dropped Johnny off after promising she’d fetch him before lunch. He walked into the daycare quietly but threw Marla a pleading look that left her heartbroken.
She went to work and asked her boss for the afternoon off to deal with a personal issue. Thankfully, her boss was a mom too and understood!
Marla was determined to get to the bottom of Johnny’s reluctance to go to daycare. She decided to drop in — not before lunchtime as she promised Johnny — but during the meal.
Johnny’s daycare didn’t allow the parents into the children’s playrooms or the dining room, but each door of the facility had a large, clear glass window. Hopefully, Marla would be able to see what — if anything — was going on.
When she arrived, the receptionist told her the children were having lunch. Marla walked to the dining room and peered in. The kids were all sitting at their tables, eating.
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A teacher or an assistant supervised each table. Marla quickly spotted Johnny. There was a woman Marla didn’t recognize sitting next to him.
As Marla watched, the woman picked up Johnny’s spoon, scooped up a portion of mashed potatoes, and pressed it against his lips. “Eat!” she cried. Johnny shook his head violently, his mouth firmly closed, tears running down his cheeks.
“Open your mouth and eat!” the woman said angrily. Johnny was looking deeply distressed. The woman cried, “You are going to sit here until you clear your plate!”
Marla saw a small portion of mince, mash, and vegetables left on Johnny’s plate, and she knew her son. Johnny was not a big eater; she never pushed it when he told her he’d had enough.
Johnny opened his mouth to protest, and the teacher quickly pushed the spoon in. Marla saw her son choke and sputter. She’d had enough! She opened the door and stormed in.
“Get away from my son!” she cried.
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The woman looked up, and her mouth hung open. “Parents aren’t allowed in the dining room!” she cried.
“Then they should be,” Marla said, reining in her anger. “Can’t you see Johnny’s had enough? He’s a healthy boy, but he is not a big eater. As an educator, you should know how traumatic force-feeding a child can be.
“Being forced to clean up the plate is an old-fashioned notion. You should be aware of the statistics and the causes of obesity and eating disorders in children.
“And one of them is making food an issue! My little boy is an active child, and if he feels he’s had enough, you need to respect that and not force him to eat.
“As for shoving food into a child’s mouth in that way, it is reprehensible! You should certainly know better. These children are not puppets for you to manipulate at will!
“They are little people with needs and a will of their own. If you don’t respect their boundaries, you teach them they don’t deserve respect. I don’t think that is a message you want to pass on!”
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The teacher flushed a bright red and got to her feet. “I never…” she cried.
“That’s a pity,” Marla said crisply. “Because if this happens again, I will ensure you are out of a job! I’m not sending my son to daycare to be brutalized!”
Marla walked over to Johnny and tenderly wiped his mouth. “Come on, honey,” she said gently. “Mommy promised you a treat this afternoon!”
Marla had a long talk with Johnny, and there was no tantrum the next morning. Over the next few weeks, she popped into the daycare at lunch times just to keep an eye on things.
The teacher never forced Johnny to eat again, and the boy recovered his good humor and enthusiasm.
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What can we learn from this story?
- Children and their boundaries should be respected. Johnny’s teacher was teaching him that adults had the right to impose their will on children against their welfare.
- Raising a child is about setting and respecting boundaries — theirs and ours. A child whose boundaries are not respected is insecure and has low self-esteem.
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I Thought My Parents Arranged a Surprise Party to Celebrate My Graduation, but the Reality Left Me Speechless
I Thought My Parents Arranged a Surprise Party to Celebrate My Graduation, but the Reality Left Me Speechless
Growing up in the shadow of her older sister’s achievements, Martha never imagined the night of her biggest triumph would be eclipsed by an unexpected engagement. But in the aftermath of hurt and rivalry, a journey of self-discovery and healing began.
Since we were kids, my sister, Mia, and I have been in this silent competition, thanks to our parents. She’s three years older than me, so she always hit those big milestones first. And every time she did, it was a huge celebration. My achievements? Not so much.
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I remember when Mia graduated from college. Our parents threw a huge party. There were balloons, streamers, and a big banner that said, “Congratulations!” They even rented a hall for the after-party. I was proud of her, but I also felt a bit jealous. Would I ever get the same kind of recognition?
Three days ago, I graduated with my master’s degree. It was a tough journey though sleepless nights, endless research papers, and a lot of stress. But I did it. I was excited to share this moment with my family.
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My parents had been acting secretive, dropping hints about a surprise celebration. They told me they would come home early and that I could hang out with friends and Mia for a bit. But they made sure we would be home at a specific time. They even sent texts to remind us, which made me even more excited.
As we pulled up to the house, my heart was racing. The driveway was packed with cars, and I felt a surge of happiness. Maybe this time, it was my turn to be celebrated. Mia and I exchanged glances, and she gave me a reassuring smile.
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We walked to the front door, and I could hear faint murmurs from inside. I took a deep breath and reached for the doorknob. My hand trembled slightly as I turned it.
The door swung open, and my excitement quickly turned to confusion. The room was filled with candles, flowers, and balloons.
But instead of celebrating my graduation, everyone was focused on Mia’s boyfriend, who was down on one knee with a ring in his hand. Our parents stood nearby, beaming with pride and excitement.
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“Will you marry me, Mia?” he asked, his voice trembling with emotion.
Mia gasped, covering her mouth with her hands. “Yes! Yes, I will!”
Everyone cheered, and I forced a smile, clapping along with them. Inside, I felt that familiar sting. The same feeling I’ve had for as long as I can remember. I was never quite enough in our parents’ eyes.
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I joined the celebration, trying my best to look happy. I hugged Mia and congratulated her, even though my heart wasn’t in it. Our parents were over the moon, showering her with praise and attention. I stood on the sidelines, feeling like an afterthought.
As the evening wore on, I found myself drifting through the party, smiling and nodding at the right moments, but my mind was elsewhere. I thought about all the times I had worked so hard, only to have my achievements overshadowed by Mia’s. It wasn’t her fault, but it still hurt.
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When it was finally time to cut the cake, my parents called everyone into the dining room. The cake was beautiful, decorated with flowers and a tiny engagement ring on top. I watched as Mia and her fiancé cut the first slice, everyone around them cheering and taking photos.
I felt a lump in my throat and excused myself, needing a moment alone. I wandered through the house, memories of past celebrations swirling in my mind. Each one was a reminder of how I had always been in Mia’s shadow.
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Later that night, as the celebration continued, I slipped out onto the back porch. The cool night air was a welcome relief from the crowded house. I needed a moment to gather my thoughts.
That night, after the initial excitement had settled and everyone had gone to bed, my sister knocked on my door. She stepped inside and closed the door behind her, sitting down next to me on my bed.
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“I’m sorry,” she began, her voice soft and sincere. “I didn’t know they were going to do this today. I wanted your graduation to be your moment.”
I looked at her, the frustration and hurt I felt bubbling to the surface. “It’s not your fault. I’m happy for you, really. It’s just… I worked so hard for this degree, and it feels like they don’t see me.”
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She nodded, understanding flashing in her eyes. “I get it. Growing up, it always felt like we were in this unspoken competition, and it wasn’t fair to either of us. I love you, and I’ve always been proud of you, even if Mom and Dad didn’t always show it.”
Hearing those words from her was a balm to my wounded heart. “I love you too,” I said, tears welling up in my eyes. “I guess I just wanted them to see me the way they see you.”
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She hugged me tightly, and in that moment, the years of rivalry and comparison seemed to melt away. “You’re amazing,” she whispered. “And you don’t need their validation to prove it.”
The next morning, I woke up feeling a mix of emotions. My sister’s words from the night before had planted a seed of realization in my mind. It wasn’t about competing with her or seeking our parents’ approval. It was about recognizing my own worth and achievements for what they were.
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I decided to talk to my parents. I found them in the kitchen, preparing breakfast and still glowing from the previous night’s excitement.
“Can we talk?” I asked, my voice steady but firm.
They looked at each other, a bit surprised, and nodded. We sat down at the table, and I took a deep breath.
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“I’m really happy for my sister and her engagement,” I began. “But I need to tell you how I feel. Yesterday was supposed to be a celebration of my hard work and achievements. Instead, it turned into something else, and it hurt.”
My parents exchanged glances, the realization dawning on them. “We didn’t mean to overshadow your accomplishment,” my mom said, reaching out to take my hand. “We’re so proud of you, but we got caught up in the excitement of the proposal.”
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My dad nodded in agreement. “We should have done things differently. We’re sorry.”
Their apologies were sincere, and for the first time, I felt like they were truly seeing me. It wasn’t just about this one event—it was about a lifetime of feeling like I was living in my sister’s shadow. I knew it would take time, but this conversation was a step toward healing.
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In the weeks that followed, I focused on celebrating my own achievements. I threw a small party with friends, basking in the recognition and support from those who had been there for me all along. My relationship with my sister grew stronger as we both worked to support each other, rather than compete.
The experience taught me a valuable lesson about self-worth and the importance of seeking validation from within.
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It reminded me that my journey is unique and deserves to be celebrated, no matter what. And most importantly, it showed me that true success isn’t measured by comparisons, but by personal growth and fulfillment.
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