Only weeks after Millie Smith and Lewis Cann learned they were having twin baby girls, they learned that only one would survive.
On April 30, after 30 weeks of a high-risk pregnancy, Smith delivered identical twins, Callie and Skye, the latter who lived only three hours.
Later in neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), Callie slept without her sister in the incubator, with her loving and grieving parents watching over her. In the unit with other babies, an overwhelmed mom of healthy newborn twins innocently told Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have two babies.
Crushed by the words, the new mom couldn’t find the words to explain her loss. Then, she realized that Skye’s legacy was to help other families who lose a child, and it came in the form of a purple butterfly.
In November 2015 Millie Smith and partner Lewis Cann found out they were having their first Child. Smith, who has twins in the family, said she had a “gut feeling” about having a duo and 10 weeks later, doctors confirmed she was expecting identical twin girls.
Less than two weeks after the excitement of knowing they would double the children in their home, the British couple were devastated to learn that one of their babies had a fatal condition and wouldn’t survive after birth.
“During the scan, the doctor didn’t say anything. I was very excited and loved seeing the little babies, but she was silent. Both Lewis and I immediately knew there must be a problem,” Smith said.
Doctors shared the news that one of the babies had anencephaly, which according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) affects about one in 4,600 babies across the U.S. It’s a serious birth defect where a baby is born without parts of the brain and skull, and “almost all babies born with anencephaly will die shortly after birth.”
Knowing that one baby would die soon after birth, and that there were risks involved for their other baby, the couple decided to move forward with the extremely high-risk pregnancy.
Over the next several months, Smith and Cann named their twins Skye and Callie. “We knew that Skye needed to have a name before she was born,” Smith said. “Knowing she would only survive for seconds or minutes, I wanted her to be named during that time.”
The meaning behind “Skye,” she explained “was somewhere we knew she would always be, that we could look up at the sky and remember our baby.”
When Smith went into labor after only 30 weeks on April 30, she needed an emergency C-section. To help navigate the loss, the couple had a “bereavement midwife” during the birth, and they were put I a special room the called the “Daisy Room,” where families can spend time with a baby before and after she/he passes.
“When the girls were born, they both cried. This was a huge moment, as we were told that Skye would not make a noise or move,” said Smith, who was thankful to have three hours with Skye before she died. “We were cuddling Skye when she passed away. This was the worst moment in our lives. I have never ever felt heartbreak like that before. But I am proud that she fought for so long to spend time with us.”
Born premature, Callie had to stay in NICU while she gained some strength and also in the unit were three other sets of twin.
“Most of the nurses were aware of what had happened, but as time passed, people stopped talking about Skye. After about four weeks, everyone acted as though nothing had happened, meaning the families around me had no idea about our situation,” Smith recalled.
One morning, a stressed mother whose twins were also in NICU, harmlessly said to Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have twins.
“None of the other parents knew what had happened or anything about Skye. The comment was completely innocent and more out of humor…They weren’t to know that I did at one point have two.” Smith continued, “But the comment nearly broke me. I ran out [of] the room in tears and they had no idea why. I didn’t have the heart to tell them what had happened. A simple sticker would have avoided that entire situation.”
It was in that moment Smith realized she had to create something that would speak for parents who had just lost a baby, ensuring the misunderstanding never happens again.
She designed a poster for the NICU explaining both hospital personnel and visitors that any incubator with a purple butterfly on it means that one or more babies, in a set of multiples were lost.
“I chose butterflies, as I felt it was fitting to remember the babies that flew away, the color purple because it is suitable for both boys or girls,” said Smith.
The purple butterfly concept–now under the Skye High Foundation–has spread to hospitals in several countries around the world.
Callie is now a lively, happy seven-year-old, and twin’s memory lives in purple butterfly cards along with other initiatives to help families with babies like Skye all over the world. The purple butterflies now come in numerous forms, like ornaments, cards, blankets, stuffed animals and more.
“Ultimately I will never be able to stop this from happening but the more support groups we can set up and put things in place like the stickers the better it will be. It’s the hardest thing anyone has to deal with,” Smith said.
MY NEIGHBOR LEFT HER CAT BEHIND BECAUSE HER NEW BOYFRIEND “DIDN’T LIKE CATS” – I TOOK HER IN AND WILL NEVER BETRAY HER
I was shocked when I heard the news. My neighbor, who had this sweet, loving cat for years, moved in with her new boyfriend and left her cat outside to fend for herself. The reason? He “didn’t like cats.”
For weeks, I watched Bella wander the streets, confused and scared, clearly waiting for her owner to return. It broke my heart. One cold, rainy night, I couldn’t take it anymore and brought her inside. She was skinny, shivering, and desperate for love. Now, Bella is curled up on my couch, purring peacefully, safe and loved.
How can anyone prioritize a relationship over a loyal, trusting companion? Would you give up your pet for a partner who didn’t accept them? Would you leave behind a creature who’s been by your side, offering unconditional love, just because someone else couldn’t see their value?
The situation with Bella made me realize the deep bond between humans and animals. It’s a connection that transcends words, a silent understanding that only those who have experienced it can truly comprehend. Bella’s story is a stark reminder of the irresponsibility and cruelty that some people can inflict on innocent creatures.
I couldn’t help but wonder how many other pets are abandoned or neglected each year, simply because their owners prioritize new relationships over their loyal companions. It’s a heartbreaking reality that highlights the importance of responsible pet ownership.
As I watched Bella settle into her new home, I couldn’t shake the feeling of anger and disappointment towards her former owner. How could someone be so heartless? I’ve always believed that pets are family, and to abandon them is a betrayal of the trust they place in us.
In the weeks that followed, Bella continued to thrive. She gained weight, her fur became soft and shiny, and her playful spirit returned. She was no longer a scared, lost animal, but a happy, contented cat.
I often think about what might have happened to Bella if I hadn’t intervened. Would she have survived the harsh winter? Would she have found another loving home? The thought fills me with dread.
Bella’s story is a reminder that we all have a responsibility to care for our pets. Whether it’s a dog, a cat, a bird, or any other animal, they deserve our love, our attention, and our commitment. They rely on us for their well-being, and we must never fail them.
I hope that Bella’s story will inspire others to be more compassionate and responsible pet owners. Let’s work together to create a world where all animals are treated with kindness and respect.
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