I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
Desiree Anzalone, great-granddaughter of Desi Arnaz and Lucille Ball, and her tragic fate
Despite having been gone for thirty years, Lucille Ball is still adored and remembered by a large number of people.
She became well-known as the most popular comedy actress of the 1950s when she co-starred with her husband, Desi Arnaz, in the television series I Love Lucy.
She began her career as a model and film actor before becoming well-known for her roles in television shows. By the time her career ended, she had acted in more than 70 films.
In many respects, Lucille Ball’s legacy persisted, and her great-granddaughter exhibited a remarkable likeness to her well-known great-grandmother.
Desiree Anzalone, 31, tragically passed away in a terrible way in 2020.
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I Love Lucy changed history in a lot of ways and propelled Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz to stardom. It was among the first sitcoms to be recorded live and set the precedent for numerous other well-known sitcoms.
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Having been married twice, Lucille Ball had two kids. She married Desi Arnaz, her co-star in the film I Love Lucy, in 1940. Desi Arnaz Jr. and Lucie Arnaz are the names of the couple’s two children.
Though Desi Arnaz Jr.’s birth was among the most widely reported in television history, it wasn’t an easy life for the son of two famous people. He has acknowledged in the past that he had wild parties in Hollywood during his formative years in the 1950s and 1960s.
He was surrounded by pressure and temptation because he was the child of two extremely well-known television actors.In reality, at the tender age of fifteen, he became a parent.
Even though Arnaz Jr. did not get close to his daughter Julia until almost two decades later, he tried to make up for his earlier lack of presence by being present for his granddaughter, Desiree Anzalone.
When Lucille Ball, the actress behind I Love Lucy, gave birth to Arnaz Jr. on the same night as her main character did in a prerecorded episode, the child shot to prominence.
It was a historic event because CBS had previously maintained that a pregnant woman could not be shown on air.
The infant developed into a teenager in the company of Hollywood aristocracy, eventually rising to fame as a teenage idol of his own on his parents’ other project, Here’s Lucy.
He eventually met the mother of his daughter, Susan Callahan-Howe, about this period. She was a model.Susan and Desi Jr. first connected when they were just 15 years old. However, it took years for Desi Jr. and his daughter Julia to get back together in the 1990s.
Sadly, Julia never got to meet her famous grandma because it was after Lucille passed away.
Callahan spent years informing her daughter that her father was well-known before she tragically passed away from COVID-19 in 2020. Years later, in 1991, Julia made the decision to confirm it through a paternity test.
“When I was twenty, we took a DNA test, and the results showed that I was, in fact, his daughter. Shortly after that, my father and I began a wonderful relationship,” Julia told Page Six.
By now, I’m at least eighteen. He might have said, “Well, she’s my child, whatever.” However, he didn’t. He was a huge assistance to me throughout my life and to my daughter as she went to college.
Desiree Anzalone was that daughter, and Julia clarified that her father also grew close to her. She continued by saying that they were very close and that Desiree even briefly resided with Arnaz Jr.
In addition, Julia gave her daughter the second name Desiree in remembrance of her grandmother Lucille, who had won an Emmy.
Desiree, who studied creative writing at the University of North Texas, was employed as a photographer.
People reports that the young woman was given a stage 2 breast cancer diagnosis at the age of 25.
Anzalone had a double mastectomy and experienced a brief period of remission before the cancer reappeared and spread to her bones, liver, and lungs.
Desiree’s life unfortunately came to an end in 2020.
During the 2020 pandemic, Julia Arnaz had to deal with her mother passing away from COVID-19 and her daughter being diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer.
“I wasn’t able to see her as much as I usually do because she was compromised and I didn’t want her getting sick in any way,” Julia told People. “The COVID-19 kept us apart.” Due to the COVID since March, I was unable to spend as much time with her as I usually do. Even though we would hang out almost every day, I didn’t see her as much as I would have liked. She also spent some time living with me.
Julia Arnaz stated to Page Six in May 2021 that she was committed to working as an activist to support other young women in stopping the sickness that killed her daughter from progressing so quickly.
She has pledged to increase the number of mammograms performed in Connecticut, her home state. Arnaz wants to encourage younger women to start these checks sooner rather than later, even if older women are usually advised to do so on a regular basis.
“There’s a big difference in those four or five months,” she said. And my daughter, this lovely angel…A lot of young ladies may say, “Oh, it’s just a cyst, no big deal.” However, she truly stood up for herself, and I urge other young ladies to follow suit.
Julia Arnaz has persisted in raising awareness of this problem and making her voice heard in the public after her daughter’s untimely death.
It’s simply not discussed very often. According to Julia Arnaz in someone, “it’s usually people in their late 30s, 40s, or 50s — not somebody at this age.” She thus genuinely wanted to assist other ladies who were in a similar situation to herself. a prophylactic.
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