It’s uplifting to witness women supporting each other, whether it’s friends offering help or strangers extending support to those they’ve never met. In this story, a woman quietly left a letter for her ex-boyfriend’s future girlfriend, offering a heads-up about what to anticipate and sharing lessons from her own experience. The new girlfriend shared this moving act of solidarity on Reddit, where she received an outpouring of encouragement and advice from the online community.
She wrote:
“My boyfriend Steve (30m) and I (28f) have been together for 2 years and have been living together for 8 months. I was cleaning our apartment when I found a note in the back of a cabinet that read:
‘Dear Steve’s Future Girlfriend,
I know it’s you reading this because he’d never clean back here. I’m putting this here because I’m leaving him soon and want to warn you about him:
1-He will not clean;
2-He will not listen;
3-He will make everything feel like it’s your fault;
It’s not your fault, he’s just an incompetent man. I’m leaving him, I suggest you do the same.
Best wishes, Natalia'”
She added:
“I read the note and brought it to show to him and hear his response. He immediately ripped it up and said not to listen to it, that she was crazy and untrustworthy. I told him that the fact that he hasn’t found the note in the 5 years since they broke up is a red flag to me because it does mean he’s never cleaned back there and that he has been cleaning less and less since I moved in.
He told me this is just his ex continuing to manipulate and ruin his life, and I was letting it work. We continued to argue along the same lines, and I eventually left to spend the night at a friend’s place.
Steve has been a great boyfriend so far. He gets along with my family. He has given me gifts and flowers and always tells me how much he loves me. He’s not wrong that the cleaning hasn’t really been brought up before, but the note made me realize it had been less and less and that we needed to have a full conversation about this.”
She went on explaining:
“He texted me afterwards saying he’s sorry that I felt like I had to leave, but that it’s a wrong move for me to take a note over our 2-year relationship and to leave him and our pets alone. I don’t know what to do or what to believe right now. I’m contemplating trying to find and reach out to Natalia.
Steve thinks I should come back home and let it go, that his past should not affect our future. He makes it sound like his ex was manipulative and petty throughout their relationship, but I don’t know what to trust.
When we moved in together 8 months ago, the cleaning was 50/50. Since then, he’s been doing things less and less. I have to remind him to do things like to bring his plates to the sink or take out the trash, and I didn’t have to before. The dishes will pile up unless I do them, to the point he’s had leftover food mold on the plates.”
She continued:
“I’m not a confrontational person, so I was just asking him to fix it when it came up. The note made me reflect on it more and try to have an actual full conversation, and I will say I didn’t feel listened to when I talked to him about it.
I tried to use the note to start a conversation about cleaning, and he got so stuck on the fact that I was listening to his ex instead of him, that he wouldn’t listen to what I think are valid concerns. He thinks I’m letting the note have “confirmation bias” so no matter what he says I’ll think he’s in the wrong.
Also, I didn’t leave him permanently, this all happened yesterday and I only spent one night at a friend’s because I didn’t feel like our conversation was going anywhere last night, and he wouldn’t let me sleep until I let it go. I’m going back today and wanted to get advice and feedback before I do.”
Other Redditors chimed in, sharing their own insights and offering advice to her.
- I’m so glad for you. It wasn’t two wasted years since they taught you a valuable lesson. I’m especially grateful for Natalia! Please tell her we love her for her kind solidarity and witty ways. Absolutely, leave a note — but better yet, leave two. One in the same place (he’ll look there; manipulative narcissists aren’t that dumb), and another in an even less likely spot. Sending you my best. You got this, girl! © occasionalpart / Reddit
- Well, he’s not cleaning, he’s not listening to you, and he’s making it out to be your fault “for trusting a note over him.” So, it seems the ex’s assessment might be accurate. It doesn’t look like he’s open to discussing his poor housekeeping, and personally, I don’t think you’ll be able to address it now without the note coming up. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide whether this is something you can tolerate. It seems he hasn’t learned anything from his last relationship. © VonBoo / Reddit
- You’ve been living together for less than a year, and you’re already having to play mommy, reminding him of basic chores and daily tasks! If Natalia were truly such a manipulative, crazy person, she would have made much harsher and more dramatic accusations than these. © Arya_kidding_me / Reddit
- It’s almost ironic how easy it would have been for him to shut this entire thing down with the simplest of responses: “Hmm, you’re right, I’ll make sure to clean more.” That would have immediately countered points 2 and 3. But he’d rather be right, and he’d rather play the aggrieved party. You didn’t do anything wrong by trying to have a conversation off the back of that note. His reaction should tell you everything. © Mobius_Stripping / Reddit
- I’d be willing to bet money that the note is right. He sounds like the kind of man who will stop doing anything the second he decides a woman is fully trapped. The slow tapering off you’re witnessing is him testing the waters. He needs to figure out whether he just needs to waste enough of your time to get to that stage, or whether you need a ring or a baby to feel trapped. © Extension_Drummer_85 / Reddit
- “Don’t expect to change a man unless he’s in diapers.” This behavior will continue on, he’s gotten away with it before up to a certain point. He wants someone to pick up after him like his mommy.
Any time a guy says, “My ex is/was crazy,” is a MASSIVE red flag right there. It’s something guys have been saying since the dawn of time to belittle their former partners. He’ll say the same thing about you to his next girlfriend. You have to ask yourself, “Was she crazy, or did he drive her crazy with his behavior and laziness?” I’d leave your own note when you do finally dump him. And reach out to his ex, see what she has to say. © Equal-Brilliant2640 / Reddit
When trust is broken between couples, it often leads to a surge of emotional and psychological turmoil, including feelings of uncertainty and profound confusion. In a different scenario, a woman shared a fascinating story of her own sleuthing skills. She discovered her husband was cheating simply by paying close attention to his breakfast order.
My Grandpa Pretended to Be Deaf to Test Us before Dividing the Inheritance, I Couldnt Help but Laugh at the Will Reading
My grandpa’s will revealed a shocking secret: for months, he had been pretending to be deaf, quietly listening to everything we said about him. When the truth was finally revealed in the lawyer’s office, it exposed our family’s hidden greed and genuine love, leaving us all forever changed.
My grandpa, Harold, was one of a kind. From the time I was a little girl, he was my favorite person. He could light up any room with his laughter and mischief, always full of love for his family. His twinkling eyes were a constant source of joy, and he had a way of making life feel special.
When Grandpa passed away, I felt a deep void. I missed our long talks, his wisdom, and, most of all, his playful spirit. One prank of his, from April Fool’s Day, became legendary in our family: he told us he’d hidden a $100 bill somewhere in the house. We searched for hours, only to find a note in the cookie jar that read, “Fooled you! The best treasures are the moments we share.” We all laughed, and Grandpa’s eyes sparkled with delight.
Now, sitting in the lawyer’s office, I couldn’t shake the sadness. Grandpa was gone, and his will was about to be read. I expected that he had left something for everyone, as he was always generous. But what followed shocked us all.
The lawyer cleared his throat and began reading Grandpa’s letter:
“Hello, my dear family! Today, many of you will leave this room very disappointed because you won’t get what you expected. In fact, only one of you will leave here with a smile. For the past two months, I’ve been pretending to be deaf. I heard every word you said about me. Let’s begin with my son, John.”
My Uncle John’s face paled as the lawyer continued, “John, you have always been a dutiful son, but recently, I overheard you complaining about how much of a burden I had become. You said you couldn’t wait for the ‘old man’ to pass so you could get my money. Well, John, you’ll be disappointed to know you won’t be receiving a single penny.”
John’s face turned beet red as he slumped in his chair, visibly embarrassed.
Next, the lawyer turned to my Aunt Susan. “Susan, I heard you on the phone many times, talking about your debts and how you couldn’t wait for me to die so you could pay them off with your inheritance. Well, Susan, you’ll be receiving $1. Hope that helps.”
Susan gasped in disbelief. “This can’t be true! I never said that!” she protested, but the lawyer remained unfazed, continuing, “This is what your father wrote, Susan.”
The tension in the room was unbearable. Everyone shifted nervously, unsure of what revelation would come next.
The lawyer moved on to my cousin, Emily. “Emily, you were always sweet to my face, but behind my back, you made bets on how long I’d live and joked about inheriting my money. Emily, you will receive nothing.”
Emily’s jaw dropped in shock. The room grew thick with disbelief, some family members devastated, others secretly relieved. But the biggest surprise was yet to come.
“And now, to my beloved granddaughter, Jane,” the lawyer read. My heart pounded in my chest as I held my breath. “Jane, you spent hours talking to me, sharing your life, and listening to my stories. You never made me feel like a burden. Your love and kindness were always genuine, and for that, I am leaving you everything: my houses, my business, and all that I own. My deputy, Peter, will help you manage the company until you finish college, after which you’ll take over.”
I was stunned. Grandpa’s company was worth a fortune. I had loved him for the person he was, never for his wealth. As tears welled up in my eyes, the lawyer continued, “Jane, I trust you to run the company with the same love and integrity you always showed me. Make me proud.”
I couldn’t believe it—Grandpa had orchestrated the ultimate test, revealing everyone’s true colors. It was more than just a will reading; it was a lesson about love, greed, and what truly matters in life.
After the will was read, Peter, my grandpa’s trusted deputy, came up to me. “Jane, I had no idea Harold planned this. But I’ll be here to help you with the company whenever you’re ready.”
“Thank you, Peter,” I replied, still trying to process everything. “I’m going to need a lot of help.”
My Uncle John, fuming, muttered, “This is so unfair! I was his son—I deserved more!”
Aunt Susan, still crying, added, “We all deserved more. This is cruel.”
Surprisingly, Emily, who had been silent the entire time, finally spoke up. “Maybe this is what we needed—a wake-up call. Grandpa always knew how to make us see things differently.”
With that, the lawyer packed up his papers, saying, “If anyone has questions, feel free to contact my office. But remember, these were Harold’s final wishes.”
As my family left the office, some grumbling, others lost in thought, Emily approached me with a sad smile. “Jane, Grandpa saw something special in you. He knew you’d handle this with grace.”
“I hope so,” I said quietly. “I just want to make him proud.”
“You will,” Emily reassured me, giving me a hug. “You always have.”
As we walked out into the sunlight, I reflected on Grandpa’s final lesson. His legacy wasn’t just about his fortune—it was about love, integrity, and the lessons he had imparted on us all. True wealth isn’t measured by money but by the relationships we nurture and the respect we give and receive. Grandpa’s clever plan reminded us all of that.
With Grandpa’s memory guiding me, I felt ready to face the challenges ahead. And in that moment, I knew he would always be with me, helping me every step of the way.
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