It’s uplifting to witness women supporting each other, whether it’s friends offering help or strangers extending support to those they’ve never met. In this story, a woman quietly left a letter for her ex-boyfriend’s future girlfriend, offering a heads-up about what to anticipate and sharing lessons from her own experience. The new girlfriend shared this moving act of solidarity on Reddit, where she received an outpouring of encouragement and advice from the online community.
She wrote:
“My boyfriend Steve (30m) and I (28f) have been together for 2 years and have been living together for 8 months. I was cleaning our apartment when I found a note in the back of a cabinet that read:
‘Dear Steve’s Future Girlfriend,
I know it’s you reading this because he’d never clean back here. I’m putting this here because I’m leaving him soon and want to warn you about him:
1-He will not clean;
2-He will not listen;
3-He will make everything feel like it’s your fault;
It’s not your fault, he’s just an incompetent man. I’m leaving him, I suggest you do the same.
Best wishes, Natalia'”
She added:
“I read the note and brought it to show to him and hear his response. He immediately ripped it up and said not to listen to it, that she was crazy and untrustworthy. I told him that the fact that he hasn’t found the note in the 5 years since they broke up is a red flag to me because it does mean he’s never cleaned back there and that he has been cleaning less and less since I moved in.
He told me this is just his ex continuing to manipulate and ruin his life, and I was letting it work. We continued to argue along the same lines, and I eventually left to spend the night at a friend’s place.
Steve has been a great boyfriend so far. He gets along with my family. He has given me gifts and flowers and always tells me how much he loves me. He’s not wrong that the cleaning hasn’t really been brought up before, but the note made me realize it had been less and less and that we needed to have a full conversation about this.”
She went on explaining:
“He texted me afterwards saying he’s sorry that I felt like I had to leave, but that it’s a wrong move for me to take a note over our 2-year relationship and to leave him and our pets alone. I don’t know what to do or what to believe right now. I’m contemplating trying to find and reach out to Natalia.
Steve thinks I should come back home and let it go, that his past should not affect our future. He makes it sound like his ex was manipulative and petty throughout their relationship, but I don’t know what to trust.
When we moved in together 8 months ago, the cleaning was 50/50. Since then, he’s been doing things less and less. I have to remind him to do things like to bring his plates to the sink or take out the trash, and I didn’t have to before. The dishes will pile up unless I do them, to the point he’s had leftover food mold on the plates.”
She continued:
“I’m not a confrontational person, so I was just asking him to fix it when it came up. The note made me reflect on it more and try to have an actual full conversation, and I will say I didn’t feel listened to when I talked to him about it.
I tried to use the note to start a conversation about cleaning, and he got so stuck on the fact that I was listening to his ex instead of him, that he wouldn’t listen to what I think are valid concerns. He thinks I’m letting the note have “confirmation bias” so no matter what he says I’ll think he’s in the wrong.
Also, I didn’t leave him permanently, this all happened yesterday and I only spent one night at a friend’s because I didn’t feel like our conversation was going anywhere last night, and he wouldn’t let me sleep until I let it go. I’m going back today and wanted to get advice and feedback before I do.”
Other Redditors chimed in, sharing their own insights and offering advice to her.
- I’m so glad for you. It wasn’t two wasted years since they taught you a valuable lesson. I’m especially grateful for Natalia! Please tell her we love her for her kind solidarity and witty ways. Absolutely, leave a note — but better yet, leave two. One in the same place (he’ll look there; manipulative narcissists aren’t that dumb), and another in an even less likely spot. Sending you my best. You got this, girl! © occasionalpart / Reddit
- Well, he’s not cleaning, he’s not listening to you, and he’s making it out to be your fault “for trusting a note over him.” So, it seems the ex’s assessment might be accurate. It doesn’t look like he’s open to discussing his poor housekeeping, and personally, I don’t think you’ll be able to address it now without the note coming up. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide whether this is something you can tolerate. It seems he hasn’t learned anything from his last relationship. © VonBoo / Reddit
- You’ve been living together for less than a year, and you’re already having to play mommy, reminding him of basic chores and daily tasks! If Natalia were truly such a manipulative, crazy person, she would have made much harsher and more dramatic accusations than these. © Arya_kidding_me / Reddit
- It’s almost ironic how easy it would have been for him to shut this entire thing down with the simplest of responses: “Hmm, you’re right, I’ll make sure to clean more.” That would have immediately countered points 2 and 3. But he’d rather be right, and he’d rather play the aggrieved party. You didn’t do anything wrong by trying to have a conversation off the back of that note. His reaction should tell you everything. © Mobius_Stripping / Reddit
- I’d be willing to bet money that the note is right. He sounds like the kind of man who will stop doing anything the second he decides a woman is fully trapped. The slow tapering off you’re witnessing is him testing the waters. He needs to figure out whether he just needs to waste enough of your time to get to that stage, or whether you need a ring or a baby to feel trapped. © Extension_Drummer_85 / Reddit
- “Don’t expect to change a man unless he’s in diapers.” This behavior will continue on, he’s gotten away with it before up to a certain point. He wants someone to pick up after him like his mommy.
Any time a guy says, “My ex is/was crazy,” is a MASSIVE red flag right there. It’s something guys have been saying since the dawn of time to belittle their former partners. He’ll say the same thing about you to his next girlfriend. You have to ask yourself, “Was she crazy, or did he drive her crazy with his behavior and laziness?” I’d leave your own note when you do finally dump him. And reach out to his ex, see what she has to say. © Equal-Brilliant2640 / Reddit
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Man Mocked For Being With 252 LB Woman, Has The Perfect Response To Shut Haters Up
We expose ourselves to criticism when we post details of our lives online for everyone to see.
Since this young couple likes to share images of themselves online, some have responded harshly to them.
But their witty response to the criticism offers a sobering reminder of the importance of sticking to one’s convictions.
The story of Matt and Brittany Montgomery is one of those that occurs frequently but is yet fantastic because of the characters.
After they met and fell in love, the two started a life together right away.
Although the story of the pair may seem familiar, there is one important difference: the male is much bigger than the woman.
Brittany has battled her entire life to feel accepted and included. Her controlling parents did not make her feel protected, and she frequently left their talks feeling empty.
She started to detest her appearance and feel self-conscious as a result.
She experienced two different kinds of guys because she was a plus-size woman: those who were attracted to her curves and those who wanted her to lose weight.
Her bad luck in dating had her thinking about giving up on finding love altogether.
However, fate had different ideas for her! August 2020 saw her meet Matt Montgomery online. Even though their bodies couldn’t be more dissimilar, their spirits were more bonded than ever.
“I was a bit hesitant at first,” Brittany thought to herself. Guys have threatened to break up with me in past relationships if I don’t start dieting or make an effort to lose weight. It did have an impact on my confidence, and I did attempt to change my size by working out at one time.
They knew they were in love with one other, nevertheless. On January 30, 2022, Matt proposed, and the couple started preparing for the future right away.
Although they are very comfortable with each other, they talked about how others may view their relationship.
“People comment on Instagram and suggest that I’m not big enough or man enough for her,” Matt stated in response to a question regarding the remarks on his Instagram photo.”I do notice people staring when we walk down the street,” he continued.
No matter how many others don’t understand it and condemn their relationship, they still just have love for one another.
Matt has had a difficult time interacting with women that are “normal” size in the past.
Matt came to the conclusion that Brittany is, in fact, his soul mate because of the way she makes him feel. He strives to make sure she’s happy since he loves her for who she is.
He recently told her, “You are worthy, you are deserving of infinite love every single day and more,” demonstrating his love for her without holding back. I can tell we were meant to be together by the way you look at me and feel the same way I do about you.
He demonstrates his love for his spouse and the depth of their relationship beyond what is visible by captioning the picture of him and his wife with the offensive remarks people have made on other couples’ images. What a fantastic victory over the doubters!
The two are attempting to standardize interactions between individuals of various sizes. She said, “I wish mixed-weight relationships were more common and more the norm,” expressing her desire for them to be.
The young couple only revealed this month that they expect Lakelyn, their second child, in September 2023. We wish them all the best.
Nothing is set in stone when it comes to finding true love and following your heart.
We should all make an effort to love and embrace one another no matter what.
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