On October 1, Jimmy Carter celebrated a major milestone, becoming the first U.S. president to reach 100 years old. While his family honored this remarkable moment, his grandson shared that Carter is now “very limited in what he can do,” reflecting on the final stages of his life’s journey.
Friends and family gathered in Plains, Georgia, Carter’s hometown, to celebrate his birthday, marking the first one without his wife Rosalynn. President Joe Biden sent a heartfelt message, acknowledging the bittersweet occasion, reminding Carter that even though Rosalynn passed away, she remains with him in spirit.
The milestone celebration took place at the home Carter and Rosalynn built in the 1960s, where Carter has been in hospice care. His grandson Jason shared that this home has always provided Carter with the most comfort and support, and there is no other place where he’d want to spend these final moments.
Jason also spoke about the difficulty his grandad has faced since Rosalynn’s death, after 77 years of marriage, noting that no one can fully understand what Carter is going through. He emphasized the importance of accepting that this stage of life is deeply spiritual and beyond full comprehension.
At the birthday celebration, Carter’s son Chip and other family members enjoyed cupcakes on the lawn while World War II planes flew overhead in honor of the former president. Chip mentioned that Carter is still engaged and intends to live long enough to vote in the upcoming election, showing his continued dedication to democracy.
Jason reflected on the significance of Carter’s 100 years, highlighting the immense good he’s done throughout his life. He also shared how the last 19 months, during which Carter has been in hospice, have been an opportunity for the family and the world to reflect on his legacy.
While physically limited and rarely leaving home, Carter remains emotionally engaged, still laughing and enjoying meaningful experiences in these final stages of his journey. Jason expressed that this time has been deeply significant for his grandfather, a unique chapter of life that can only be experienced at the very end.
If you spot a purple butterfly sticker near a newborn, it is important to understand its meaning
When Millie Smith and Lewis Cann found out they were expecting a baby, they were overjoyed. As there was a history of twins in Millie’s family, she had a strong feeling that she was going to give birth to two little ones, and her instincts were right. The ultrasound confirmed that she was indeed expecting twins, but the doctors told them that one of the babies had a very small chance of survival.
ragically, one of their daughters was born at 30 weeks with anencephaly, a serious condition that affects the development of the brain and spinal cord. They learned that their precious baby had only moments or hours to live.
Knowing this, Millie and Lewis wanted to give her a name before they said goodbye. They chose the name Skye. Millie explained: “We felt she needed a name before she arrived. Knowing she wouldn’t be with us for long, I wanted her to have a name in those fleeting moments”.
The name “Skye” symbolized a connection to a place they could always remember when they looked up to the sky. “We held Skye close as she died. It was the most heartbreaking moment of our lives, but I’m proud that she fought to spend that time with us.” Skye only lived for three hours, a brief time filled with love while her parents cherished her beauty and presence.
After her death, Millie and Lewis were supported by a “bereavement midwife” and given access to a “Daisy Room”, a special room where parents could spend time with their baby before and after death. However, after Skye was gone, her memory seemed to fade; no one spoke of her, leaving Millie feeling like her daughter had never existed, which made her angry.
“Most of the nurses knew what had happened, but as the weeks went by, people stopped mentioning Skye. Other families around me had no idea about our loss”, Millie recalls.
While her other daughter, Callie, was still in the NICU, another mother who knew nothing about Millie’s situation remarked how lucky she was not to have twins. “None of the other parents knew about Skye, and that innocent comment almost broke me. I left the room in tears but didn’t have the heart to explain”, Millie said. “A simple sticker could have prevented this.”
This experience inspired Millie to design a sticker for incubators to mark the loss of one or more babies in a multiple birth. She chose butterflies to symbolise the ‘flown away’ babies and used the colour purple, which is suitable for any gender.
From this idea grew the Skye High Foundation, which promotes the Purple Butterflies initiative and helps raise awareness in hospitals around the world. The foundation also offers a range of purple butterfly merchandise.
“Although I can’t prevent these situations from occurring, I believe the more support we can provide through initiatives like the stickers, the better it will be for others who suffer this loss. It’s an incredibly tough journey”, said Millie. Today, her surviving daughter Callie is seven years old.
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