Anne Heche has died of a brain injury and severe burns after speeding and crashing her car into a home in the residential Mar Vista neighborhood last Friday, Aug 5. The building erupted in flames and Heche was dragged out of the vehicle and rushed to the Grossman Burn Center at West Hills Hospital in Los Angeles.
The 53-year-old, Emmy Award-winning actress is best known for her roles in 1990s films like Volcano, the Gus Van Sant remake of Psycho, Donnie Brasco and Six Days, Seven Nights.
Holly Baird, a spokesperson for Heche’s family, sent NPR a statement Friday afternoon saying: “While Anne is legally dead according to California law, her heart is still beating, and she has not been taken off life support.”
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Baird added an organ procurement company is working to see if the actress is a match for organ donation, and that determination could be made as early as Saturday or as late as next Tuesday.
Heche launched her career playing a pair of good and evil twins on the long-running daytime soap opera Another World, for which she earned a Daytime Emmy Award in 1991.
In the 2000s, Heche focused on making independent movies and TV series. She acted with Nicole Kidman and Cameron Bright in the drama Birth; with Jessica Lange and Christina Ricci in the film adaptation of Prozac Nation, Elizabeth Wurtzel’s bestselling book about depression; and in the comedy Cedar Rapids alongside John C. Reilly and Ed Helms. She also starred in the ABC drama series Men in Trees.
Heche made guest appearances on TV shows like Nip/Tuck and Ally McBeal and starred in a couple of Broadway productions, garnering a Tony Award nomination for her performance in the remount of the 1932 comedy Twentieth Century.
In 2020, Heche launched a weekly lifestyle podcast, Better Together, with friend and co-host Heather Duffy and appeared on Dancing with the Stars.
Heche became a lesbian icon as a result of her highly-visible relationship with comedian and TV host Ellen DeGeneres in the late 1990s.
Heche and DeGeneres were arguably the most famous openly gay couple in Hollywood at a time when being out was far less acceptable than it is today. Heche later claimed the romance took a toll on her career. “I was in a relationship with Ellen DeGeneres for three-and-a-half years and the stigma attached to that relationship was so bad that I was fired from my multimillion-dollar picture deal and I did not work in a studio picture for 10 years,” Heche said in an episode of Dancing with the Stars.
But the relationship paved the way for broader acceptance of single-sex partnerships.
“With so few role models and representations of lesbians in the late 1990s and early 2000s, Anne Heche’s relationship with Ellen DeGeneres contributed to her celebrity in a significant way and their relationship ultimately validated lesbian love for both straight and queer people,” said the Los Angeles-based New York Times columnist Trish Bendix.
Bendix said that while Heche was later in relationships with men — she married Coleman Laffoon in the early 2000s and they had a son together, and was more recently in a relationship with Canadian actor James Tupper with whom she also had a son — “her influence on lesbian and bisexual visibility can’t and shouldn’t be erased.”
In 2000, Fresh Air host Terry Gross interviewed Heche in advance of her directorial debut on the final episode of If These Walls Could Talk 2, a series of three HBO television films exploring the lives of lesbian couples starring DeGeneres and Sharon Stone. In the interview, Heche said she wished she had been more sensitive about other people’s coming out experiences when she and DeGeneres went public with their relationship.
“What I wish I would have known is more of the journey and the struggle of individuals in the gay community or couples in the gay community,” Heche said. “Because I would have couched my enthusiasm with an understanding that this isn’t everybody’s story.”
Heche was born in Aurora, Ohio in 1969, the youngest of five siblings. She was raised in a Christian fundamentalist household.
She had a challenging childhood. The family moved around a lot. She said she believed her father, Donald, was a closeted gay man; he died in 1983 of HIV.
“He just couldn’t seem to settle down into a normal job, which, of course, we found out later, and as I understand it now, was because he had another life,” Heche told Gross on Fresh Air. “He wanted to be with men.”
A few months after her father died, Heche’s brother Nathan was killed in a car crash at the age of 18.
In her 2001 Memoir Call Me Crazy, and in subsequent interviews, Heche said her father abused her sexually as a child, triggering mental health issues which the actress said she carried with her for decades as an adult.
In an interview with the actress for Larry King Live, host Larry King called Heche’s book, “one of the most honest, outspoken, extraordinary autobiographies ever written by anyone in show business.”
“I am left with a deep, wordless sadness,” wrote Heche’s son with Lafoon, Homer, in a statement shared with NPR via Baird. “Hopefully my mom is free from pain and beginning to explore what I like to imagine as her eternal freedom.”
I Invited My Parents for Dinner, but When I Saw What They Did to My Daughter, I Kicked Them Out
A single father found himself facing a painful reckoning when his parents, known for their harsh criticism, belittled his daughter’s piano performance during a family dinner. What started as a proud moment for his daughter quickly turned into a battle to protect her innocence and self-esteem.
I watched Lily’s small fingers hover over the keyboard, her brows furrowed in concentration. Our living room felt warm and cozy, with the soft glow from the lamp in the corner casting a gentle light on her anxious face.
A young girl playing on the piano | Source: Midjourney
My eyes drifted to the framed photo on the piano—just the two of us. She was barely five then, sitting on my lap, both of us grinning wide. It was a reminder of why I did everything I did.
“Take your time, sweetheart,” I said, keeping my voice calm and steady. “You’ve got this.”
She took a deep breath, her shoulders tense. “Okay, Daddy. I hope I don’t mess up.”
A serious girl in front of her piano | Source: Midjourney
I leaned forward, resting my elbows on my knees, trying to catch her eye. “Even if you do, it’s okay. Just do your best. I’m proud of you for practicing so much.”
She gave me a small smile, her confidence barely there, and then started playing. The song was simple, a few missed notes and pauses, but I could see how hard she was trying. When she finished, I clapped, grinning ear to ear.
A young girl playing | Source: Midjourney
“That was great!” I said, feeling that familiar swell of pride. “You’re getting better every day.”
“Really?” she asked, her voice small and uncertain.
“Absolutely,” I said, standing up and giving her a hug. “You’ve only had a few lessons, and you’re already playing like this! It’s not easy, I know, but you’re doing an amazing job.”
She glanced at the picture on the piano. “Do you think Grandma and Grandpa will like it?”
A happy girl with her father | Source: Midjourney
My smile tightened. I didn’t want to show her the doubt I felt. “I’m sure they will,” I said, hoping I was right.
The doorbell rang, pulling me from my thoughts. My heart skipped a beat. I took a deep breath and opened the door.
“Tom,” my mother said, stepping in for a quick, stiff hug. “It’s been too long.”
A woman hugging her son | Source: Midjourney
“Yeah, it has,” I replied, stepping aside to let them in. My father, Jack, gave me a curt nod, barely looking at me before brushing past and walking into the house. I shut the door, already feeling the familiar tightness in my chest. This was supposed to be a good night.
They walked into the living room, where Lily was standing, her hands clasped nervously in front of her.
“Hi, Grandma! Hi, Grandpa!” she said brightly, trying so hard to sound confident.
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My mother’s smile softened just a little. “Hello, Lily dear. My, how you’ve grown.”
My father barely glanced at her. “House looks fine,” he muttered, his eyes scanning around as if he was inspecting the place.
I bit back my irritation. “Dinner’s almost ready,” I said, trying to keep my voice steady.
When we finished eating, I started clearing the table. Lily hesitated, looking between the kitchen and the living room.
A grandfather having dinner with his granddaughter | Source: Midjourney
“Can I play now? Is that okay?” she asked softly, looking at my parents.
“Of course, darling,” my mother said with a polite smile that didn’t reach her eyes. “We’d love to hear what you’ve been working on.”
“Go ahead, sweetheart,” I said, smiling. “You can start playing. I’ll listen from here.”
“Are you sure?” she asked, her fingers fidgeting with the hem of her shirt.
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I nodded. “I can hear you just fine. And I’ll be right out once I finish cleaning up.”
She gave me a small smile and turned toward the keyboard. My parents moved to the sofa, settling in, my father with a drink in hand, and my mother smoothing down her skirt, glancing around the room.
A nervous girl playing | Source: Midjourney
Lily took a deep breath, her hands hovering over the keys. I busied myself with the dishes, trying to focus on the sound of her playing. She started slow, the melody a little uneven at first. I could tell she was nervous. I dried a plate and set it aside, listening carefully.
She missed a few notes, paused, then started again. I could hear the determination in her playing, the way she tried to push through her mistakes. My heart swelled with pride. She was giving it her all, and that was what mattered.
A proud man | Source: Midjourney
I was about to start washing the pans when I heard a strange noise. At first, I thought something had gone wrong with the piano, but then I realized it was my mother. She was laughing, softly at first, a stifled chuckle. I froze, dishcloth in hand, straining to listen.
Then my father’s laugh joined hers, louder and harsher. It felt like a slap, echoing through the kitchen. My stomach twisted. I put down the dish and walked to the doorway, peeking into the living room.
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“Was that your first time playing it?” my mother asked, and I could hear that familiar edge in her voice.
Lily’s eyes darted between them, her little hands still hovering over the keys. The look of confusion and hurt on her face was like a knife twisting in my gut. I saw her shrinking, folding into herself, as if trying to disappear. Her lip quivered, and she blinked rapidly, fighting back the tears. My heart broke in that instant.
An upset girl in front of her piano | Source: Midjourney
“No, no, I-I’ve had two lessons,” she stammered, her voice shaking. “It’s just… hard to play with both hands.”
My father laughed louder, his voice booming. “A dog could have done better,” he said, wiping a tear from his eye. He looked at my mother, and they shared a look, like they were in on some sick joke.
An elderly couple laughing loudly | Source: Midjourney
I couldn’t move. I was frozen, caught between disbelief and a burning rage that was building in my chest. This was my parents. My parents, who were supposed to love and support their granddaughter, tearing her down, just like they did to me so many times before. The old, familiar anger rose up, choking me, but I swallowed it down, struggling to stay calm for Lily’s sake.
A shocked middle-aged man | Source: Midjourney
“Hey,” I managed to say, my voice tight. “She’s just starting. She’s doing great.”
My mother waved her hand, dismissing me. “Oh, Tom, don’t be so sensitive. We’re just having a bit of fun.”
Fun. That’s what they called it. I looked at Lily, who had gone silent, her eyes fixed on the floor. I knew that look. I’d worn it for years.
A sad girl | Source: Midjourney
“Mom, Dad,” I said, trying to keep my voice steady, “I think it’s time for you to leave.”
They both stopped laughing, staring at me like I’d lost my mind.
My father stood up, his face red. “We raised you better than this. You’re being too soft. She’s never going to survive out there if you coddle her like this.”
An angry elderly man | Source: Midjourney
I couldn’t take it anymore. All the anger, the pain from years of their constant criticism, the way they belittled everything I did, it all came rushing back. My voice was still steady, but I felt like I was on the edge of a cliff.
“This,” I said, my voice low but firm, “this is why I was so messed up as a kid. Because you couldn’t just be kind. You always had to tear me down. Well, I’m not letting you do that to her. Now get out.”
Two men fighting | Source: Midjourney
They stared at me, shocked. My mother opened her mouth to say something, but I shook my head. “No. Get your things and go.”
Without another word, they gathered their coats and bags, and with one last glare, they left. The door clicked shut behind them, and I stood there, shaking, trying to catch my breath. I turned around and saw Lily, her face streaked with tears.
A crying girl | Source: Midjourney
“Daddy, I’m sorry,” she whispered. “I didn’t mean to—”
I crossed the room in two steps and pulled her into my arms. “No, baby, no. You didn’t do anything wrong. You did amazing, okay? I’m so proud of you.”
She sniffed, clinging to me. “But they laughed at me.”
A man hugging his daughter | Source: Midjourney
I felt my chest tighten again, but I kept my voice gentle. “They were wrong, sweetheart. They don’t know how to be nice sometimes. But that’s their problem, not yours.”
She hesitated, then nodded slowly. “Okay.”
I sat down beside her, my arm around her shoulders, and she started to play again. This time, her fingers were a little more confident, the melody smoother. I watched her, my heart swelling with pride.
A sad girl looking at her piano | Source: Midjourney
“See?” I said softly when she finished. “You’re getting better every time.”
She gave me a small smile, and I felt a warmth spread through me. It wasn’t just about this moment. It was about everything I was trying to do, everything I was trying to be for her.
After Lily went to bed, I sat alone in the living room. The silence was heavy, my mind still replaying the evening’s events.
A serious man sitting in the living room | Source: Midjourney
I took a deep breath and stood up, walking over to the piano with a picture above it. I touched the keys gently, thinking about how this instrument, once a source of joy, had been tainted by their cruelty. But not anymore. I wouldn’t let them take that from her. I wouldn’t let them take that from us.
The next morning, Lily and I sat at the piano again. She looked up at me, a question in her eyes. I smiled and nodded.
A happy girl sitting at her piano | Source: Midjourney
“Let’s try it again, okay?” I said. “You and me.”
She nodded, her fingers finding the keys, and she started to play. The melody filled the room, a little stronger, a little more sure. I watched her, my heart full, and as the music played, I knew we’d be okay.
We’d be just fine.
A smiling man in the sunlight | Source: Midjourney
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