Sonia Todd of Moscow, Idaho, died of cancer at the young age of 38. But knowing the end was near, she decided to write her own obituary before passing away. As she explained, obituaries were usually written a couple of different ways that she simply didn’t care for. So, as one of her last acts on this earth, she put pen to paper and decided for herself how her obituary would read.
The result of Sonia confronting her own mortality as she penned her obituary was a piece full of humor as well as wisdom, appearing in the Moscow-Pullman Daily News. The words were so honest and inspirational that long after her death, they will still ring true, giving others something to aspire to. Ironically, Sonia wrote, “I never really accomplished anything of note.” How wrong she was. The truth expressed in the obituary she wrote proved to be quite an accomplishment in and of itself.
“Other than giving birth to my two wonderful, lovable, witty and amazing sons (James and Jason), marrying my gracious, understanding and precious husband (Brian), and accepting the Lord Jesus Christ as my personal savior – I have done very little. None of which requires obit space that I have to shell out money for,” Sonia Todd began, explaining why she was writing her obituary and why it wouldn’t be like others.
Adding that she didn’t want a bunch of her loved ones sitting around to write a glowing report of her, which she says would be “filled with fish tales, half-truths, impossible scenarios, and out-right-honest-to-goodness-lies,” Sonia explained she simply didn’t like putting people in those kinds of situations. With the explanation out of the way, she got to her version of the truth about her own life.
“I just tried to do the best I could. Sometimes I succeeded, most of the time I failed, but I tried. For all of my crazy comments, jokes and complaints, I really did love people. The only thing that separates me from anyone else is the type of sin each of us participated in. I didn’t always do the right thing or say the right thing and when you come to the end of your life those are the things you really regret, the small simple things that hurt other people,” Sonia admitted.
Although she said that she mostly enjoyed life, she also said it wasn’t perfect and that she encountered many bumps in the road, especially in her teens and early 20s. Even though some parts of her life were harder than others, Sonia said, “I learned something from every bad situation and I couldn’t do any more than that.” She also claimed there were benefits to dying young. Jokingly, she wrote, “I still owe on my student loans and the jokes on them cuz I’m not paying them. Plus, I am no longer afraid of serial killers, telemarketers or the IRS.”Addressing the fact that some people have told her that writing her own obituary is morbid, Sonia Todd continued, “I think it is great because I get a chance to say thank you to all the people who helped me along the way. Those who loved me, assisted me, cared for me, laughed with me and taught me things so that I could have a wonderful, happy life. I was blessed beyond measure by knowing all of you. That is what made my life worthwhile.”
It was the conclusion of her obituary that was the most important, however. Sonia encouraged others to change their lives. “If you think of me, and would like to do something in honor of my memory do this: Volunteer at a school, church or library. Write a letter to someone and tell them how they have had a positive effect on your life. If you smoke – quit. If you drink and drive – stop,” she wrote.
Her advise continued, “Turn off the electronics and take a kid out for ice cream and talk to them about their hopes and dreams. Forgive someone who doesn’t deserve it. Stop at all lemonade-stands run by kids and brag about their product. Make someone smile today if it is in your power to do so.”
Today seems like a good day to honor Sonia’s memory by completing some of these simple requests and reminding others to do the same. Luckily for us, we still have time for these things. And, thankfully, with her dying wish, Sonia Todd left us these words of wisdom that few realize until it’s too late
WHO IS THIS ACTOR, WHO WAS LIVING WITH $150 A MONTH, AND NOW HAS A FARM WITH HIS FAMILY
Renowned in the movie industry, this actor recently clinched a Golden Globe for his standout performance in an HBO project. Surprisingly, prior to his foray into television, he had never actually watched any of his own performances.
In a candid interview, he confessed his initial skepticism towards TV projects, stating: “If my agent had called me and said, ‘I think you should do a series,’ I would have fired my agent…”
However, it was his actress wife who ultimately persuaded him to reconsider. He fondly recalled the joy of sharing the screen with her and attending award ceremonies together.
Reflecting on his wife’s versatile acting career, he drew inspiration from the legendary Meryl Streep, noting: “You know, when I started to see her film work, you know, she does one part, and then she does another part, and it’s like barely recognizable, and to me, that was what I had always envisioned being an actor was, to be able to put on these different hats and become different people”.
This accomplished actor, none other than the charismatic 65-year-old Kevin Bacon, has journeyed from struggles to stardom, finding solace and happiness alongside his wife.
During a recent chat with Kelly Clarkson, Bacon reminisced about his humble beginnings. In 1976, he made the leap from Philadelphia to New York, where he had previously visited with his sister.
Arriving in the Big Apple, Bacon initially bunked with his sister until he could secure his own place. With just $150 to his name for the month, he stumbled upon a makeshift living situation advertised in The Village Voice. “Artists, actors, musicians, residents” were welcomed, and he found himself in what he describes as “basically a flophouse”.
For four years, he shared a space with a pianist in a rental office, unable to afford a proper apartment. Despite the challenges, Bacon’s determination and talent eventually paved the way to success, leading him to cross paths with his future wife, Kyra Sedgwick.
Their serendipitous encounter occurred in 1987 on the set of “Lemon Sky”. Bacon was smitten from the start, though Sedgwick needed a bit more convincing. After some persistence, their first date unfolded, marked by laughter and a deep connection that sealed their fate.
“We’ve always been each other’s biggest support and fans. A sense of humor is crucial. He is very freaking funny”, Sedgwick fondly remarked.
Together, they navigated the journey of parenthood, raising two children, Travis and Sosie, who are now adults. For Bacon, being a father is paramount, as he strives to instill values of honesty, integrity, and compassion in his children, emphasizing the importance of caring for the world and each other.
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