Prince Harry recently opened up about his journey with post-traumatic stress disorder following the loss of his mother, Princess Diana. In a candid discussion, he revealed his exploration of a groundbreaking therapy that helped him.
The therapy is called eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) to address the debilitating effects of his anxiety attacks. This revelation offers a glimpse into the royal’s personal struggles and his proactive approach towards mental health care, shedding light on the significance of seeking innovative treatments of traumas.
In a video, Prince Harry can be seen undergoing EMDR therapy, where he taps his shoulders and moves his eyes rapidly. This therapy is relatively new and is used to treat PTSD. Prince Harry shared that he decided to try EMDR to deal with severe anxiety attacks he was experiencing.
Prince Harry mentioned that he was open to trying EMDR because of the therapy and work he had done over the years.
During a therapy session with UK-based psychotherapist Sanja Oakley, Prince Harry demonstrated how EMDR helped him feel better about returning home. He described feeling scared and helpless before, but the therapy helped him cope with those feelings.
Prince Harry’s openness about his experience with EMDR therapy sheds light on alternative treatments for post-traumatic disorder and mental health struggles. It shows that seeking help and trying different therapies can make a difference in managing mental health conditions.
EMDR is a therapy made in 1987 to help with emotional traumas. It’s a structured therapy where you think about a tough memory while moving your eyes back and forth. This helps lessen the strong feelings tied to the memory.
EMDR works on a theory called Adaptive Information Processing (AIP). It says that trauma sticks around because it hasn’t been dealt with properly. So, when something reminds you of the trauma, those memories can come back strongly.
Unlike other therapies that try to lessen your reaction to trauma, EMDR tries to change how your brain stores those tough memories. Sometimes, instead of eye movements, you might listen to alternating tones. Usually, EMDR happens once or twice a week for about six to 12 sessions. But it can vary depending on the person.
Benefits of EMDR therapy
- EMDR is a structured therapy and usually needs fewer sessions than ongoing therapies.
- You don’t have to keep going back to the tough memory for a long time.
- You don’t have to talk a lot about what happened to you.
- There’s no homework to do.
- EMDR doesn’t try to change your thoughts and beliefs.
Disadvantages of EMDR therapy
- While EMDR is known to help with PTSD, it hasn’t been studied as much for other mood or mental health problems.
- If you’re avoiding talking about a tough event, EMDR might not be the best choice. Other types of talk therapy might work better.
- EMDR can sometimes make you feel worse at the start of treatment. The person who created EMDR warns that this could be dangerous for people who have gone through really tough things.
The process of EMDR
EMDR is a structured process with eight phases, each aimed at helping you deal with traumatic memories:
- History taking: Discuss your past with the therapist to identify which memories to focus on.
- Preparation: Learn about EMDR and how the therapist will use bilateral stimulation.
- Assessment: Identify your negative and positive beliefs related to the trauma.
- Desensitization: Use bilateral stimulation while recalling the memory.
- Installation: Focus on positive beliefs while processing the memory.
- Body scan: Talk about how you feel emotionally and physically.
- Closure: Prepare for what may happen between sessions.
- Reevaluation: Assess your progress and decide if more sessions are needed.
As you go through EMDR, you may start feeling less overwhelmed by the trauma. It’s normal for other painful memories to surface, indicating that suppressed memories are being processed.
When grappling with deep emotional traumas, it’s crucial to seek out specialists who can provide the appropriate form of treatment tailored to your needs. Whether it’s EMDR therapy or other therapeutic approaches, finding the right professional can make a significant difference in your healing journey.
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My FIL Demanded That I Pay $6000 for His Retirement Trip, So My Wife and I Taught Him a Good Lesson
My FIL Demanded That I Pay $6000 for His Retirement Trip, So My Wife and I Taught Him a Good Lesson
Retired FIL’s cruise invite turned $6000 shocker leads to a clever family counterplot. A budget-friendly voyage, a faux breakdown, and a cheeky postcard teach lessons in financial wisdom and family respect, steering through high seas drama to a harmonious resolution.
So, my father-in-law, George, recently retired and decided to celebrate big time. He invited the entire family, including my wife, Sarah, our kids, and me, on a cruise. We were all thrilled, especially the kids, who packed their bags a week in advance, buzzing with excitement.
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Now, let me paint you a picture: we’re a happy, middle-class family. We work hard, save up for rainy days, and occasionally splurge on family vacations. So, this cruise invitation seemed like a stroke of luck, a perfect getaway to celebrate George’s retirement. The anticipation was building, and tomorrow was supposed to be the day we set sail into this fantastic adventure.
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But here’s where things took a jaw-dropping turn. George casually asked me to check my email for the tickets. I thought, “Great, let’s get those boarding passes printed and ready!” But when I opened the email, my excitement crashed harder than a wave during a storm. There wasn’t just a ticket confirmation. Oh no, there was a message from George saying, “Transfer the money to my bank account,” accompanied by a whopping $6000 bill for the cruise!
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I stared at the screen, thinking it had to be a mistake. Surely, George wouldn’t invite us on a trip and then hand us the bill, right? Wrong! When I called him to ask what the heck was going on, he dropped the bomb: “We had a family talk and decided that you should cover everyone on this trip because you’re the ‘man of the house,’ earning good money now that I’m retired.”
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I was speechless. We’ve always been generous with family, but this was beyond anything I could fathom. It’s not like we’re swimming in cash—we have bills, a mortgage, and kids’ education to think about. This $6000 bill was not in our budget, and George’s entitlement felt like a slap in the face.
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I tried to reason with him, hoping he’d see how unreasonable this was. But no, he was adamant that we should foot the entire bill, even suggesting we take out a loan if necessary! “George, about this cruise bill… We were really taken aback by the cost. It’s a lot more than we anticipated.”
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“Well, you’re the provider in the family now. I’ve done my part, and it’s time for you to step up,” said George nonchalantly.
“But George, we can’t just pull out $6000 like it’s nothing. We have our own financial plans and responsibilities.”
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George shrugged. “You have a stable job, don’t you? I don’t see why you’re making such a fuss. Just get a loan or figure it out. It’s for family, after all.”
That chat felt like talking to a brick wall. George was adamant that because I’m married to his daughter and doing well, I should cover the entire trip. His lack of understanding was astounding.
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Afterwards, I relayed everything to Sarah. We sat in our living room, tension hanging in the air like a thick fog.
Sarah was visibly upset. “I can’t believe Dad is doing this. It’s like he’s completely disregarded our financial situation.”
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“He’s stuck on this idea that I should bear the whole cost because I’m the ‘man of the house.’ It’s ridiculous.” I sighed deeply.
Sarah started pacing back and forth. “We can’t just give in to his demands. But the kids… they’d be heartbroken if we canceled now.”
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We were torn between our financial sanity and the kids’ happiness. The conversation went round and round, with both of us feeling trapped between a rock and a hard place.
After a while, Sarah finally stopped to look at me. “There’s got to be a way to sort this out without jeopardizing our finances or disappointing the kids.”
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We spent the rest of the night brainstorming, trying to concoct a plan that wouldn’t end with us resenting George or saddling ourselves with debt.
After much debate and distress, Sarah and I finally hatched a plan that turned the tables in the most unexpected way.
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First off, let me say that Sarah is a genius. Late one night, after endless discussions and what felt like a million cups of coffee, she had a lightbulb moment. “Why don’t we just book a separate, more affordable cruise for us and the kids?” she suggested, her eyes sparkling with a mix of mischief and determination. “We can still have a family vacation, just without the financial strain and… George’s company.”
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It was brilliant. We found a modest cruise that was set to sail around the same time as George’s lavish extravaganza. It was perfect for our budget and still promised loads of fun for the kids. We booked it right away, feeling a mix of relief and excitement.
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But the real kicker? We concocted a little scheme to make a point to George. On the day of departure, we were all supposed to drive to the port together. Everything was going smoothly until, just a few blocks from George’s house, I pulled over. “Oh no, I think the car’s broken down!” I exclaimed, feigning panic.
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George, already in high spirits about the cruise, was flustered. “What? Now? But we can’t miss the ship!”
With our best acting skills, Sarah and I insisted he go ahead without us. “Don’t worry, we’ll sort this out and catch up with you,” Sarah assured him, hiding her grin.
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So, George and his entourage went on without us, clueless about our actual plan. Meanwhile, we headed to a different port and embarked on our delightful, budget-friendly cruise.
Now, for the pièce de résistance: Before we left, we’d arranged with George’s cruise company to make a special announcement. Just as they set sail, the captain cheerfully announced, “Welcome aboard! Thanks to the generous contribution from our esteemed guest, George, you’re all upgraded to an all-expenses-paid experience with premium amenities!”
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So, after we executed our plan and set sail on our own budget-friendly cruise, we were buzzing with anticipation about how things were unfolding on George’s luxury liner. According to a few relatives who were in on our plan and went on the cruise with George, the announcement about his supposed ‘generous contribution’ for the premium upgrades made quite the splash.
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They told us that when the captain made the announcement, thanking George for his grand gesture, the entire ship erupted in applause. George was visibly confused and utterly mortified, trying to wave off the cheers and explain the misunderstanding. But of course, the more he protested, the more people praised his ‘generosity’ and ‘big heart.’ The relatives said it was like watching a comedy show, with George as the unwitting star.
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Meanwhile, on our end, we were having the time of our lives. Our cruise might not have had the lavish amenities of George’s, but it was perfect for us. The kids were having a blast with all the onboard activities, and Sarah and I could finally relax, knowing we hadn’t broken the bank or caved to unreasonable demands.
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In a moment of cheeky inspiration, Sarah suggested we send George a postcard. “Greetings from our actual cruise! Thanks for the lesson in standing our ground and managing our finances wisely. Enjoy your ‘generosity’! Love, your financially savvy in-laws.”
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As we enjoyed the simpler pleasures of our cruise, I couldn’t help but reflect on the absurdity of the situation. We had managed to teach George a lesson in respect and boundaries, all while ensuring our family still got to enjoy a much-needed vacation.
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