I never thought my husband’s birthday party would end up being the night that tore his family apart. But I guess life has a way of throwing curveballs when you least expect them.
I’ve been married to Ryan for five years now, and we’ve always had a pretty good life together. We both have solid careers and a nice group of friends, and we generally get along well with his family — his parents, Gina and Frank, and his younger brother, Cole.
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The party was in full swing, our house filled with laughter and the clinking of glasses. Ryan was in his element, chatting with everyone and showing off the vintage record player I’d gotten him.
“Natalie, this is amazing!” he said, pulling me into a hug. “Best birthday ever!”
I grinned, watching him interact with our friends. Cole sidled up to us, a beer in hand.
“Yeah, sis, you really outdid yourself,” he said, giving me a wink.
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I noticed Cole had been drinking quite a bit, but I didn’t think much of it at the time. If only I’d known what was coming.
As the night wore on, people started to trickle out. Soon, it was just us, Ryan’s family, and our friends Karen and Tom.
“You guys should stay the night,” I offered. “It’s late, and you’ve all had a few drinks.”
Everyone agreed, and I started assigning sleeping arrangements. Ryan’s parents took the guest room, Karen and Tom the pull-out couch, and Cole got the spare room in the basement.
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After Ryan headed up to bed, I stayed behind to clean up a bit. I was elbow-deep in sudsy water when I felt someone come up behind me.
“Need a hand?” Cole’s voice was right in my ear, making me jump.
“Cole! You scared me,” I said, turning around. “No, I’m good. You should get some sleep.”
He leaned against the counter, a strange look in his eyes. “Nah, I’m not tired. Let me help.”
I shrugged and handed him a towel. We worked in silence for a few minutes before things got… weird.
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“You know, Natalie,” Cole said, his voice low. “I’ve always thought you were too good for my brother.”
I laughed nervously. “Good one, Cole. I think you’ve had a bit too much to drink.”
But he wasn’t laughing. He stepped closer, and I could smell the alcohol on his breath.
“I’m serious,” he said. “You’re smart, funny, beautiful. Ryan doesn’t appreciate you like I would.”
My heart started thumping. Was this really happening? I tried to shrug it off.
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“Cole, you’re drunk. Go to bed.”
He grabbed my arm, his eyes intense. “Come with me. To my room. Ryan will never know.”
I felt like I’d been punched in the gut. This was my husband’s brother — the same guy who’d been best man at our wedding, who came over for dinner almost every Sunday. And here he was, propositioning me in my own kitchen.
For a split second, I considered slapping him. But then an idea struck me — a way to teach him a lesson he’d never forget.
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I forced a smile. “You know what? You’re right. Ryan doesn’t appreciate me.”
Cole’s eyes widened in surprise. “Really? You mean…?”
I nodded, trying to look seductive. “But we need to be careful. Here’s what we’ll do. Go down to your room and put this on.”
I handed him a sleep mask from the junk drawer. He looked at it, confused.
“Trust me,” I said. “It’ll make things more… exciting. I’ll be down in a few minutes.”
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Cole grinned and practically ran to the basement. As soon as he was gone, I let out a shaky breath. Then I headed upstairs.
I shook Ryan awake. “Babe, wake up. We have a problem.”
Ryan blinked at me, confused. “What’s wrong?”
I took a deep breath. “It’s Cole. He… he just tried to get me to sleep with him.”
Ryan sat up, suddenly wide awake. “What? You’re kidding, right?”
I shook my head. “I wish I was. But listen, I have a plan.”
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I quickly explained what happened and what I wanted to do. Ryan’s face went through a range of emotions — shock, anger, and finally, a grim determination.
“Let’s do it,” he said.
We woke up his parents and our friends, explaining the situation in hushed tones. Everyone was shocked, but they agreed to help.
As we crept down to the basement, I felt nervous and angry. This was going to change everything, but Cole needed to learn that actions have consequences.
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I opened the door to find Cole lying on the bed, the sleep mask in place. He stirred when he heard us enter.
“Natalie? Is that you?” he asked, a smile in his voice.
I took a deep breath. “Yeah, it’s me. Have you been waiting long?”
Cole chuckled. “It feels like forever. I hope the others don’t hear us.”
I saw Ryan clench his fists, but he stayed quiet. “Don’t worry about them,” I said. “Why don’t you take off that mask and look at me?”
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Cole reached up and pulled off the mask. For a moment, he blinked in confusion at the group of people standing in front of him. Then realization dawned on his face.
“What the hell?” he sputtered, scrambling to sit up.
Ryan stepped forward, his voice cold. “That’s what I’d like to know, little brother. What the hell were you thinking?”
Cole’s face went pale. “Ryan, I… it’s not what it looks like.”
“Really?” Ryan said. “Because it looks like you were trying to sleep with my wife.”
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Gina let out a choked sob. “Cole, how could you?”
Cole looked frantically around the room, his eyes landing on me. “Natalie, tell them! You came onto me!”
I shook my head, disgusted. “Don’t try to pin this on me, Cole. Everyone here knows what really happened.”
Frank, who had been silent until now, spoke up. “Son, I think it’s best if you leave. Now.”
Cole’s face crumpled. “Dad, please… It was a mistake. I was drunk.”
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But Frank just shook his head, looking older than I’d ever seen him.
Ryan pointed to the door. “Get out, Cole. And don’t come back.”
We watched in silence as Cole gathered his things and left. The sound of his car starting and driving away seemed to echo in the quiet house.
After he was gone, Ryan turned to me, pulling me into a tight hug. “I’m so sorry, Nat. I can’t believe he would do this.”
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I hugged him back, feeling the tension of the night start to drain away. “It’s not your fault.”
We spent the rest of the night talking — about what happened, about how we’d move forward. It wasn’t going to be easy, but we’d get through it together.
Gina and Frank were devastated. “We raised him better than this,” Gina kept saying, tears in her eyes.
Frank just looked lost. “I don’t understand. He’s always looked up to Ryan. Why would he do this?”
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Karen and Tom made coffee and tried to keep everyone calm. “It’s not anyone’s fault,” Karen said. “Cole made his own choices.”
As the sun started to rise, Ryan and I were sitting on the porch, cups of coffee in hand.
“Some birthday, huh?” I said, trying for a weak joke.
Ryan gave me a small smile. “Yeah, not exactly what I had in mind. But you know what?”
“What?”
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He took my hand, squeezing it gently. “I’m glad it happened. Not because of what Cole did, but because it showed me how lucky I am to have you. You’re amazing, Natalie.”
I felt tears prick my eyes. “We’re lucky to have each other.”
***
The next few weeks were tough. Ryan’s parents decided to cut ties with Cole, at least for the time being. It was hard on all of us, especially Ryan. He’d always been close to his brother, and now that relationship was shattered.
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“I keep thinking about all the times we hung out,” Ryan said one night. “Was he always thinking about you like that?”
I shook my head. “I don’t think so. I think he was just drunk and made a terrible decision.”
But the damage was done. Family gatherings were awkward, with Cole’s absence hanging over everything like a cloud. Gina would get teary-eyed whenever someone mentioned him, and Frank would just stare off into space.
Slowly, though, we started to heal. Ryan and I grew even closer, if that was possible. We talked more, shared more. It was like we’d been through a war together and come out stronger on the other side.
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What Men’s Beauty Standards Look Like in Different Countries
The mainstream definition of what an ideal man should look like varies from country to country. Just like women, a lot of men try to follow common beauty trends in order to be seen as more attractive. The cultural difference in what exactly people consider objectively beautiful might come as a surprise.
Bright Side did a fun bit of research about what people consider to be the ideal male beauty standard in many countries around the world. Looking at the most beloved male celebs will tell you about what is considered attractive.
1. United States and Canada
According to People’s magazine, the most attractive men in the US for the past 3 years are Paul Rudd (Ant-Man), Michael B. Jordan (Black Panther), and singer John Legend.
The usual definition of beauty, when it comes to men in the United States and Canada, is having a muscular physique, ruggedness, and golden skin. However, in the past couple of years, especially among the younger generation, an androgynous look has become more desirable.
2. India
According to the poll, the most attractive men in India are actors Shah Rukh Khan (Don 2), Aamir Khan (Like Stars on Earth), and Hrithik Roshan (Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara). Even though Shah Rukh Khan took first place, he actually opened up, saying that he has been called “ugly and unconventional” in the past.
The main beauty standard in India is having a lighter skin tone, which gets promoted a lot on TV. Other than that, Indian standards are pretty close to American: tall, muscular man, who have clear skin and a full head of hair.
3. United Kingdom
According to a 2021 poll, the most attractive man in the UK is Tom Hardy (Inception), and 2022 research suggests that Richard Madden (Game of Thrones) has a huge shot of winning that title.
The research data says that the ideal type of man for British people has an athletic build, brown eyes, short dark-brown hair, and some facial hair. In fact, men with beards are found to be over 60% more attractive than men without them.
4. Philippines
The most attractive men in the Philippines have been noted as Josh Cullen Santos from the boy group SB19 and the actor Alden Richards (Imagine You & Me).
The beauty standard in the Philippines has shifted and instead of looking macho, the men care about their appearance a lot and go for a more beautiful look, so they go to salons to get facials. Other standards include having dark hair, being at least 5’9“, and having a more “mestizo” look, which means being mixed with white.
5. South Korea
While western countries prefer men who are athletically built, South Korea likes more of a skinny, androgynous-looking body (not too skinny, fat, or muscular) for men. Men need to be a little bit soft, with slim facial features, double eyelids, and lighter skin.
Male celebrities in South Korea also do not shy away from using makeup or dyeing their hair, actors dye it black to look more youthful while idols dye it “fun” colors, and it is not considered to be revolutionary like it would be in the US.
6. Mexico
Mexicans go for a more “macho” look, which means being extremely masculine, as opposed to South Korea which prefers a more androgynous look. The list of the most attractive men includes actors Diego Boneta (Luis Miguel) and Ryan Guzman (9-1-1) in the first 2 spots.
7. Germany
According to research, German women prefer their men to be taller, with either black or brown short hair. The largest percent of the respondents said that they would like their man to be muscular, but skinny men took a close second place.
Football player Marco Reus and the actor Thore Schölermann have been named the most attractive men.
8. Italy
In Italy, men being overly masculine does not have much importance in terms of their attractiveness. In fact, a lot of men are into grooming and styling their body hair, and Italian men do not shy away from wearing “girlish” colors, like pink or purple.
The most attractive male celebrities are considered to be Raoul Bova and Giulio Berruti.
9. Australia
Australian male beauty standards are focused on physical size and being muscular. While women perceive their bodies as heavier than ideal, men who follow beauty standards, on the contrary, think they are too skinny. The Hemsworth brothers are considered one of the ideals of Australian beauty.
10. The Netherlands
The Netherlands is considered to be a country that has the tallest people in the world, with the average height of a woman being 5’7″ (around 170 cm), and 6’0″ (around 183 cm) for men. Dutch women seek a male partner that is taller than them.
TV presenter Arie Boomsma and actor Michiel Huisman have been named 2 of the most attractive Dutch men, and their heights match up the beauty standard: Boomsma is 6’5 (around 198 cm), while Peelen is 6’1 (around 185 cm). Notably, both men are also muscular and have facial hair.
Which country’s standards align with your own? Do you think standards are hurtful for people’s self-esteem?
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