Matt Heath: My parting message: Enjoy things while they are around

A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.

Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.

Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.

Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.

Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.

A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”

Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.

While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?

Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”

With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.

There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).

A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.

Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.

Bless!

Fans Rejoice as People’s 2023 Sexiest Man Alive Is Revealed: ‘Finally Someone Worth It!’ 

Votes for People’s 2023 Sexiest Man Alive have been cast, the verdict is in, and the recipient has been revealed.
One of the heartthrob stars in the cover image has taken the title for this year.
His loving wife was incredibly supportive and even helped style his silver hair.

This year’s winner for People’s Sexiest Man Alive has been unveiled. One of the dashing stars in the cover photo is the well-deserving recipient of the title.

Throughout his illustrious career in Tinseltown, the star has always been known to catch the public’s attention because of his acting talents and his dashing good looks. In fact, during his time on the popular medical drama TV show he starred in, he garnered the name McDreamy.

Given his rep as a heartthrob in Hollywood, it’s no wonder he scored the esteemed media outlet’s title. As part of the officiation, the famous actor conducted a photo shoot with the magazine and sat down to talk with them about how he felt:

“I was completely shocked, and then I laughed. And I was like, ‘You’re kidding me. This is a joke, right?’”

He had been traveling on a plane from New York to Maine in the early morning when his phone rang, and he received the good news. For ten times, he was always featured as a runner-up until he finally managed to snag the title this year.

Besides the bump to his ego and having fun with the stature, the winner also spoke about being able to use the platform to promote positive work. Although he said his family thought he was joking at first and laughed when he told them, they were super excited and proud nonetheless, especially his biggest supporter: his loving wife.

When she found out her husband had won, she could not stop gushing over him and the wonderful news. The incredibly supportive wife even assisted with styling her husband’s hair for the photoshoots and interviews he did for the occasion. She took to her Instagram Story to boast about how proud she is of him via a series of photos and shared:

“Loved being a part of this insanely fun ride with you…What a title! You truly are my sexiest man alive…”

People's 2023 Sexiest Man Alive, dated November 8, 2023 | Source: Instagram/jilliandempsey

Fans Rejoice over People’s 2023 Sexiest Man Alive and Expressed How Well Deserved the Actor’s Win Is
The Hollywood silver fox who won People’s 2023 Sexiest Man Alive title is Patrick Dempsey, 57, and his doting wife, Jillian Fink, is not the only one super excited about him winning the title. When the public learned Dempsey won, many could not stop saying how well-deserved his win was.

Fan comment about Patrick Dempsey, dated November 8, 2023 | Source: Instagram/people and patrickdempsey
Fan comment about Patrick Dempsey, dated November 8, 2023 | Source: Instagram/people and patrickdempsey
Fan comment about Patrick Dempsey, dated November 8, 2023 | Source: Instagram/people and patrickdempsey
Fan comment about Patrick Dempsey, dated November 8, 2023 | Source: Instagram/people and patrickdempsey

Dempsey’s fans swooned over how gorgeous he is and expressed excitement over his title. Many also commented on how long overdue his win was and stated:

“ finally someone worth it!”

Patrick Dempsey as the winner of People's 2023 Sexiest Man Alive, dated November 8, 2023 | Source: Instagram/people
Fan comment about Patrick Dempsey, dated November 8, 2023 | Source: Instagram/people and patrickdempsey
Fan comment about Patrick Dempsey, dated November 8, 2023 | Source: Instagram/people and patrickdempsey
Fan comment about Patrick Dempsey, dated November 8, 2023 | Source: Instagram/people and patrickdempsey
Fan comment about Patrick Dempsey, dated November 8, 2023 | Source: Instagram/people and patrickdempsey

In line with many speaking out about how long they had been waiting for Dempsey to win, others mentioned how unwavering his good looks are. Another fan even went so far as to say that they believe Dempsey should stay as the title holder indefinitely.

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