Not too long ago, on a routine trip to the neighborhood grocery shop, I had a series of encounters that turned my life completely upside down. The cashier on this particular day treated me with a level of disrespect that was unexpected and unpleasant, probably due to personal sorrow or prejudice stemming from my lowly appearance. In the end, this traumatic experience taught me a profound and life-changing lesson that I feel obligated to impart to others.
Though most people who know me refer to me as Maggie, my name is Margaret. Having moved away from my family and now living alone, I now consider the simple pleasure of a fresh bun—which I had ventured to the grocery for on that fateful day—to be a little but meaningful indulgence. My ordinarily peaceful days are somewhat cheered up by these small pleasures.
I was shocked and disappointed to see that I had misplaced the two dollars I needed to finish my transaction when I got to the checkout. I started hurriedly digging through my purse for any spare change that may work, completely overwhelmed with panic.
The cashier gave me a mocking, impatient look as she saw my desperate quest. Old lady, hurry up. She said harshly, “Stop wasting our time if you can’t afford it. Her words sliced through me, making me feel even more embarrassed as I was burdened by other customers’ critical looks. I felt a thick quiet descend upon me as embarrassment blazed across my face.
I was about to give up, feeling hopeless and overwhelmed by the whole thing, when something unexpected happened. A display of canned goods was knocked over by the cashier, who was so eager to get rid of me and help the next client. Everyone’s focus was momentarily diverted from me to the mess by the loud clatter of the cans as they hit the floor.
As the chaos started, a worried client said, “Watch out!” Now clearly agitated, the cashier rushed to pick up the cans but, in her haste, tripped and fell, bringing attention to herself even more. For a moment, I was relieved of the humiliation I was feeling because of this chaotic event.
A good-natured stranger moved forward as the store took a minute to take in the scene. Having seen the entire encounter, he approached to offer his assistance out of compassion. “Please, allow me to purchase this bun for you,” he added, smiling softly as if to alleviate some of the harshness I had just encountered. He then extended the bun in my direction.
I was grateful for his compassion and experienced a slight sense of validation that the cashier’s impolite behavior had not gone undetected. I managed to add, “Thank you so very much,” my voice quivering a little from a mixture of relief and appreciation. “You don’t know how much this means to me right now.”
“There’s really no issue at all,” he comforted me. “By the way, my name is John.”
I answered, “Margaret, but please call me Maggie,” feeling a little lighter as his generosity broke through the darkness of the earlier moments.
That’s when John started genuinely caring about me. “Do you live nearby?” he worriedly asked.
Indeed, I answered, “just around the corner.” “Now that I’m single, my family has moved on without me.”
John said, “That’s hard to hear,” with sympathy. “What were your activities prior to retiring?”
“I taught chemistry,” I said, experiencing a brief moment of pride for the first time in a long time.
John’s curiosity caused his eyes to expand. “Wow, that is amazing! My girls are having a lot of difficulty in their chemistry classes as they pursue their medical degrees. With hope, he inquired, “Would you be interested in tutoring them?”
My surprise was caused by the proposition. I hadn’t taught in years, so the idea of rekindling my love of chemistry and the classroom was both thrilling and intimidating. I said, “I would be honored,” feeling a glimmer of excitement flare up within of me. “It would be amazing to connect with young minds that are eager to learn and to feel useful again.”
“It’s amazing!” John shouted. “Let’s trade contact details. I hope to see you soon, along with Sarah and Emily. They would really benefit from your knowledge.
After exchanging phone numbers, John graciously offered to drive me home. We talked further about my previous experiences as a teacher and his children’ academic aspirations and challenges while we drove. I felt like I had made a new friend by the time he left me off at my humble home; someone who valued me more than my age or my financial situation.
I added, “Thank you once more, John,” as I got out of his vehicle. You’ve given me more than simply a bun today. I feel like I have a purpose again because of you.
“You’re welcome, Maggie,” he smiled warmly in response. “I’ll give you a call shortly to set up the initial tutoring session time.”
With a renewed sense of optimism and expectation, I watched him drive off. I felt appreciated and could see a way forward where I could once again make a significant contribution for the first time in a very long time.
I experienced a profound sensation of rejuvenation as soon as I entered my home. I proceeded to my bedroom and unlocked my wardrobe, revealing my former teaching attire. They were still in good shape, tucked in nicely like they were just waiting to be put to use. I picked out a crisp blouse and skirt, and as I put on my clothes, enthusiasm and nostalgia for my teaching days returned. It seemed as though I was resuming a function that had previously defined me and that I had assumed had been abandoned but was now emerging as a guiding light for the future.
I visited with Sarah and Emily, John’s daughters, the following day. They were intelligent, motivated students who were ready to take in all I had to teach them. I was so happy and satisfied tutoring them that it made me remember why I had loved teaching for so long. As we dug further into the nuances of chemistry over the course of the weeks, I saw a marked improvement in their comprehension and confidence.
“Maggie, my chemistry test result was A+!” One afternoon, Sarah said, her face glowing with accomplishment and satisfaction.
That’s fantastic, Sarah! I responded with a wave of pride in myself, saying, “I knew you could do it.” Observing their development was immensely satisfying, and news of my tutoring’s influence quickly circulated across the neighborhood.
Could you also tutor my son, Mrs. Maggie? One day, a concerned and sincere neighbor asked, “He’s having trouble in his science classes.”
The chance to increase my impact and assist additional youngsters touched my heart, so I said, “Of course, I’d be happy to help.”
My little house quickly became into a hive of activity, laughing and learning, full with young minds ready to succeed. I had restored my identity as a respected teacher who was improving the lives of others; I was no longer just the lonely grandma who had trouble at the grocery store.
John gave him a ring one evening to see how his daughters were doing. His voice was full of thanks as he replied, “Maggie, I can’t thank you enough for what you’re doing for Sarah and Emily.”
John, it’s a pleasure for me. I responded, thinking back on how much my life had changed since our accidental meeting at the grocery. “They’re wonderful girls, and I’m so glad I can help,” I said.
I gazed about my bustling home, which was suddenly full of pupils and the hum of learning, as I hung up the phone. I accepted that I had been given another chance at life and resolved to seize any moment I had to mentor and uplift others.
One day, full of pride and confidence, I made the decision to go back to the same store where it all started. I was curious to observe the cashier’s reaction when I bought another bun.
It was the same cashier I had seen earlier, as I walked up to the counter. I made sure to stay a little while longer, seeming to look in my handbag for cash once again. But the cashier’s demeanor was noticeably different this time.
“Ma’am, take your time. Is there anything more I can do to assist you? In sharp contrast to our last conversation, she asked in a courteous, calm tone.
“No, thank you,” I answered, giving her the cash for the bun while feeling both happy and thoughtful about the harsh truth that appearances frequently lead to judgment.
I thought about the important lesson I had learned as I left the store: the power of compassion and understanding to change not just individual lives but entire communities. I made the decision to keep imparting these ideals to my kids in the hopes of encouraging them to see past appearances and recognize the complexity of each person’s unique story.
I had find my passion and purpose through this journey, which was started by a small act of kindness and an unanticipated change in my life. I was dedicated to promoting compassion and empathy as a teacher once more, making sure that every student I came into contact with learnt to place more emphasis on a person’s inner qualities than on their external looks.
This metamorphosis involved more than just going back to work; it involved resurrecting a crucial aspect of myself that had been neglected. It served as a reminder that you can always make a difference in both your own and other people’s lives.
How Beauty Standards of the Miss World Pageant Have Changed
On March 9, 2024, the Miss World 2023 pageant was held to choose a beauty queen once again. The crown went to Krystyna Pyszková of the Czech Republic. To honor this event, we decided to take a look at the history of the contest and find out how the jury’s approach to assessing women’s beauty has changed over the decades.
1950s: it all started with a scandal.
Kiki Håkansson (Sweden), Miss World 1951
In 1951, as part of the Festival of Britain, the Festival Bikini Contest was held, which journalists later named Miss World. This event became a scandal because in those days a bikini was considered indecent.
Swedish beauty Kikki Håkansson became the winner of this first pageant. And to this day, she remains the only winner to have received her crown while wearing a bikini. Later, the finalists would wear a one-piece swimsuit or evening gown to the awards ceremony.
Denise Perrier (France), Miss World 1953, and Marita Lindahl (Finland), Miss World 1957
Despite the 1951 bikini scandal, the contest founder Eric Morley was pleased with the public attention and decided to hold the pageant annually. His requirements for potential participants were as follows: single women without children aged 17 to 27.
Corine Rottschäfer (Netherlands), Miss World 1959
In 1959, a major British television channel agreed to broadcast the pageant, thus making it even more popular. Corine Rottschäfer found herself in a delicate situation before the awarding ceremony when she discovered that her evening gown had holes in it. Another contestant lent Corine the dress and eventually finished third, while Corine became the winner.
1960s: Miss World is gaining momentum.
Katharina Lodders (Netherlands), Miss World 1962
In the 1960s, the Miss World pageant became one of the most watched television shows. The cash prize for the winner was increased from £500 to £2,500. In 1961, the requirements for contestants were also changed: the upper age limit was now 25 years old.
Katharina Lodders, who was crowned in 1962, addressed these criteria in her own way. On collecting the award, she said out loud, «I don’t think I’m the most beautiful girl in the world — I am the most beautiful girl here.»
Ann Sidney (Great Britain), Miss World 1964
In 1964, the winner was Ann Sidney, who later made a career in the movie industry. By the way, Morley introduced a new rule that same year: he forbade the mothers of contestants to accompany their daughters. The reason why was because the mother of one of the girls caused a lot of inconvenience to the organizers, getting involved in their work.
Reita Faria (India), Miss World 1966
In the late 1960s, the contest became even bigger. In 1966, Morley sent invitations to more than 70 countries, 66 of which were happy to respond. And in 1968, for the first time in the history of the event, a married girl was allowed to participate. In the 1970s, however, a strict criterion for the marital status of contestants was reintroduced: single only, period.
1970s: feminists change the essence of the pageant.
Jennifer Hosten (Grenada), Miss World 1970
The beginning of the decade was marked by a new scandal. In 1970, a week before the pageant, British feminists claimed that Miss World objectified women and threatened to interrupt the show. And they did it. When the event was in full swing, some female guests rose from their seats and began to blow whistles, jingle rattles and shout slogans. Later, the movie Misbehaviour starring Keira Knightley was based on these events.
In 1970, Jennifer Hosten won the crown. She became the first black woman to win it.
Marie Stävin (Sweden), Miss World 1977, and Silvana Suárez (Argentina), Miss World 1978
The conflict with feminists forced the organizers to think about the message the pageant was sending to the world. And in 1972, Eric Morley and his wife announced that the event would now be held under the slogan «Beauty With a Purpose.» The contestants were also required to present their charity projects to the jury.
1980s: «Beauty With a Purpose»
Mariasela Álvarez (Dominican Republic), Miss World 1982
In the 1980s, the slogan «Beauty With a Purpose» got another meaning: new tests of intelligence and personality were added to the contest program. In the eyes of the judges, the contestants’ personal qualities became as important as their looks.
Giselle Laronde (Trinidad and Tobago), Miss World 1986
In the second half of the decade, the contest became criticized again. The public in different countries didn’t like the fact that girls were judged only by representatives of Western countries. And in 1986, Morley decided to hold the preliminaries of the contest in Macau and give the Eastern judges the opportunity to select the contestants. The winner that year was Giselle Laronde from Trinidad and Tobago. This was the first time a representative of this country won the crown.
Ulla Weigerstorfer (Austria), Miss World 1987
And in 1987, the organizers ignored their own rule that allowed to participate girls aged only 17 to 25 and let a 26-year-old beauty to compete for the crown. Later, the upper age limit would be made 27 again.
1990s: crisis
Aishwarya Rai (India), Miss World 1994
In the early 1990s, the popularity of the contest began to decline, and major TV channels stopped broadcasting it. But Morley wasn’t going to give up and managed to find ways to organize the contest at a lower cost.
Yukta Mookhey (India), Miss World 1999
In the second half of the decade, the organizers decided to gather a jury of representatives of different professions from all over the world in order to increase the interest of the audience. So, now beauties were judged by actors and actresses, athletes, magazine editors, and top models from different countries.
2000s: a woman takes the reins.
Agbani Darego (Nigeria), Miss World 2001
In 2000, Eric Morley passed away, so his wife Julia took on her husband’s work and decided to make some adjustments. For example, she called the pageant «stupid and horrible» and promised to make it «more positive» for women. She condemned the part of the show where girls had to first parade around in swimsuits and then give interviews about their life ambitions. «Not because I thought there was something wrong, horrible, and unnatural about swimsuits, but I thought you generally don’t feel comfortable if someone is interviewing you in a tux, and you are in a bathing suit,» Julia said.
Rosanna Davison (Ireland), Miss World 2003, and Kaiane Aldorino (Gibraltar), Miss World 2009
In 2004, Julia Morley surpassed her spouse by managing to gather a then record number of participating countries — 107 girls took part in the competition.
2010s: no swimsuits
Megan Young (Philippines), Miss World 2013
In 2013, the contestants traveled to Bali. It was the first time the event was held in Southeast Asia. Also, for the first time in the history of the contest, a girl from the Philippines, Megan Young, won the crown.
Manushi Chhillar (India), Miss World 2017
Julia Morley, who had previously voiced her discontent with overly revealing costumes of contestants,
decided to remove the swimsuit competition from the pageant in 2015. She said, «We are really not looking at her bottom. We are really listening to her speak.»
2020s: what’s next?
Karolina Bielawska (Poland), Miss World 2021
The first event of the new decade wasn’t really big. In 2022, the number of countries participating in the contest was the smallest since 2003 — only 97. The winner was Karolina Bielawska from Poland. Next time, the Miss World jury gathered in 2024 and crowned Krystyna Pyszková from the Czech Republic.
Krystyna Pyszková (Czech Republic), Miss World 2023
Since modern trends criticize various beauty standards, there is a possibility that the Miss World organizers will choose to stop using any selection criteria for future contestants, following the example of Miss Universe. In 2023, the latter removed the upper age limit for contestants. And since Julia Morley suggests that it is personality that should be evaluated, we are sure that changes in the contest are not long to wait.
Speaking about Miss Universe. Here’s what 16 Miss Universe winners look like now.
Preview photo credit Harry Pot / Nationaal Archief / Wikimedia Commons, CC BY-SA 3.0 NL DEED, Historia de la belleza / Wikimedia Commons, EAST NEWS, Rajanish Kakade / Associated Press / East News
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