In a groundbreaking moment 16 years ago, Thomas Beatie etched his name in history as the world’s first man to undergo pregnancy.
Born female, Thomas underwent a gender transition, now identifying as a transgender man. The global spotlight shone on him when news broke of his remarkable journey to parenthood with the birth of his first daughter, Susan
In a surprising turn of events in 2006, he halted his testosterone treatment with the aspiration of conceiving. Facing fertility challenges with his then-wife Nancy, Thomas made the courageous decision to carry the child himself.
The iconic image of Thomas Beatie sporting a heavily pregnant belly first circulated in 2008, creating ripples across the world. Media dubbed Beatie “the pregnant man” and news of his story quickly spread worldwide.
Yet, the journey was far from smooth, with hate emails and death threats pouring in from numerous quarters, including established media outlets.
”Doctors have discriminated against us, turning us away due to their religious beliefs. Health care professionals have refused to call me by a male pronoun or recognize Nancy as my wife. Receptionists have laughed at us. Friends and family have been unsupportive; most of Nancy’s family doesn’t even know I’m transgender,” Thomas later said.
During an extensive 48-hour labor, Susan, the first child of Thomas and Nancy, was born into the world healthy and happy. Thomas, determined to opt for a natural birth, defied expectations. His case marked the first documented instance where a legally recognized male gave birth within a marital union with a woman.
Thomas Thomas Trace Beatie
Posted by Thomas Trace Beatie on Tuesday, February 23, 2016
Over the course of five years without testosterone, Thomas experienced four more pregnancies (one of which resulted in an ectopic pregnancy). Together with his first wife, Nancy, he raised Susan and sons Austin and Jensen, presenting themselves as a traditional family with strong values.
In a significant television debut, Thomas Beatie took center stage with an exclusive hour-long interview on the Oprah Winfrey Show in April 2008. Addressing a global audience, he openly discussed his belief in the reproductive right to bear a child, irrespective of his male gender identity.
During the interview, Beatie emphasized: “It’s not a male or female desire to want to have a child; it’s a human desire. I’m a person, and I have the right to have my own biological child.”
His words echoed a powerful assertion of his personal autonomy and challenged conventional perceptions surrounding gender and parenthood.
In 2016, Thomas entered a new chapter, marrying a new partner, Amber. Despite having known each other since 2012, a tumultuous divorce with Nancy delayed Thomas and Amber’s nuptials.
The couple moved to Oregon with their blended family, consisting of Susan, Austin, Jensen, and Amber’s grandchild Lily.
Reflecting on their bustling household, Thomas shared: “It can get pretty loud with four kids aged 3, 5, 6, and 7, but we love it,” in an interview with Daily Mail.
https://googleads.g.doubleclick.net/pagead/ads?client=ca-pub-4474563764641079&output=html&h=280&adk=4069688376&adf=4045391038&pi=t.aa~a.462992225~i.10~rp.1&w=567&abgtt=6&fwrn=4&fwrnh=100&lmt=1725727061&num_ads=1&rafmt=1&armr=3&sem=mc&pwprc=2224412124&ad_type=text_image&format=567×280&url=https%3A%2F%2Fblogerusa.com%2Fhe-was-the-first-man-in-the-world-to-give-birth-16-years-later-he-looks-like-this%2F&fwr=0&pra=3&rh=142&rw=567&rpe=1&resp_fmts=3&wgl=1&fa=27&uach=WyJXaW5kb3dzIiwiMC4zLjAiLCJ4ODYiLCIiLCIxMDkuMC41NDE0LjE2OCIsbnVsbCwwLG51bGwsIjY0IixbWyJOb3RfQSBCcmFuZCIsIjk5LjAuMC4wIl0sWyJHb29nbGUgQ2hyb21lIiwiMTA5LjAuNTQxNC4xNjgiXSxbIkNocm9taXVtIiwiMTA5LjAuNTQxNC4xNjgiXV0sMF0.&dt=1725727054056&bpp=2&bdt=600&idt=2&shv=r20240904&mjsv=m202409030101&ptt=9&saldr=aa&abxe=1&cookie=ID%3D3f2645567c3eb605%3AT%3D1725178333%3ART%3D1725727055%3AS%3DALNI_MY6GbXfXHxmefIvhGS1Hj5W4vRWLQ&gpic=UID%3D00000ee687861dce%3AT%3D1725178333%3ART%3D1725727055%3AS%3DALNI_MZKeuGwT1AgAbe3aWgzjskyaGrt7g&eo_id_str=ID%3D775b948784ba4e3d%3AT%3D1725178333%3ART%3D1725727055%3AS%3DAA-AfjZ7yqkk0Mu1Q6ZSkF_HXr72&prev_fmts=0x0%2C567x280%2C567x280&nras=4&correlator=3849238489757&frm=20&pv=1&u_tz=420&u_his=2&u_h=768&u_w=1360&u_ah=728&u_aw=1360&u_cd=24&u_sd=1&dmc=8&adx=92&ady=2432&biw=1031&bih=592&scr_x=0&scr_y=66&eid=44759876%2C44759927%2C44759837%2C31086552%2C31086638%2C31086710%2C95331690%2C95338229%2C95338243%2C95341662%2C95342033%2C95335245%2C95340845&oid=2&pvsid=2097730090636822&tmod=1727556499&uas=3&nvt=1&ref=https%3A%2F%2Fblogerusa.com%2Fhe-was-the-first-man-in-the-world-to-give-birth-16-years-later-he-looks-like-this-2%2F%3Ffbclid%3DIwY2xjawFJU85leHRuA2FlbQIxMAABHYog5lgCow30wf2sRPny6snhcosxSK0WpZ_Ltjf_PzoPIe_vPE6JWsPEYg_aem_P_8hhNkaJWyUnO-siEQelA&fc=1408&brdim=168%2C16%2C168%2C16%2C1360%2C0%2C1064%2C712%2C1048%2C592&vis=1&rsz=%7C%7Cs%7C&abl=NS&fu=128&bc=31&bz=1.02&psd=W251bGwsbnVsbCxudWxsLDNd&ifi=4&uci=a!4&btvi=3&fsb=1&dtd=7023
Quel rôle est plus convaincant: flic ou maçon? ??? Which look is more convincing?
Posted by Thomas Trace Beatie on Sunday, March 10, 2019
Sixteen years have elapsed since Thomas became a public figure, yet he continues to make occasional appearances on social media and in people’s feeds.
https://googleads.g.doubleclick.net/pagead/ads?client=ca-pub-4474563764641079&output=html&h=280&adk=4069688376&adf=2688793161&pi=t.aa~a.462992225~i.16~rp.1&w=567&abgtt=6&fwrn=4&fwrnh=100&lmt=1725727061&num_ads=1&rafmt=1&armr=3&sem=mc&pwprc=2224412124&ad_type=text_image&format=567×280&url=https%3A%2F%2Fblogerusa.com%2Fhe-was-the-first-man-in-the-world-to-give-birth-16-years-later-he-looks-like-this%2F&fwr=0&pra=3&rh=142&rw=567&rpe=1&resp_fmts=3&wgl=1&fa=27&uach=WyJXaW5kb3dzIiwiMC4zLjAiLCJ4ODYiLCIiLCIxMDkuMC41NDE0LjE2OCIsbnVsbCwwLG51bGwsIjY0IixbWyJOb3RfQSBCcmFuZCIsIjk5LjAuMC4wIl0sWyJHb29nbGUgQ2hyb21lIiwiMTA5LjAuNTQxNC4xNjgiXSxbIkNocm9taXVtIiwiMTA5LjAuNTQxNC4xNjgiXV0sMF0.&dt=1725727054062&bpp=1&bdt=606&idt=1&shv=r20240904&mjsv=m202409030101&ptt=9&saldr=aa&abxe=1&cookie=ID%3D3f2645567c3eb605%3AT%3D1725178333%3ART%3D1725727055%3AS%3DALNI_MY6GbXfXHxmefIvhGS1Hj5W4vRWLQ&gpic=UID%3D00000ee687861dce%3AT%3D1725178333%3ART%3D1725727055%3AS%3DALNI_MZKeuGwT1AgAbe3aWgzjskyaGrt7g&eo_id_str=ID%3D775b948784ba4e3d%3AT%3D1725178333%3ART%3D1725727055%3AS%3DAA-AfjZ7yqkk0Mu1Q6ZSkF_HXr72&prev_fmts=0x0%2C567x280%2C567x280%2C567x280&nras=5&correlator=3849238489757&frm=20&pv=1&u_tz=420&u_his=2&u_h=768&u_w=1360&u_ah=728&u_aw=1360&u_cd=24&u_sd=1&dmc=8&adx=92&ady=2621&biw=1031&bih=592&scr_x=0&scr_y=260&eid=44759876%2C44759927%2C44759837%2C31086552%2C31086638%2C31086710%2C95331690%2C95338229%2C95338243%2C95341662%2C95342033%2C95335245%2C95340845&oid=2&pvsid=2097730090636822&tmod=1727556499&uas=3&nvt=1&ref=https%3A%2F%2Fblogerusa.com%2Fhe-was-the-first-man-in-the-world-to-give-birth-16-years-later-he-looks-like-this-2%2F%3Ffbclid%3DIwY2xjawFJU85leHRuA2FlbQIxMAABHYog5lgCow30wf2sRPny6snhcosxSK0WpZ_Ltjf_PzoPIe_vPE6JWsPEYg_aem_P_8hhNkaJWyUnO-siEQelA&fc=1408&brdim=168%2C16%2C168%2C16%2C1360%2C0%2C1064%2C712%2C1048%2C592&vis=1&rsz=%7C%7Cs%7C&abl=NS&fu=128&bc=31&bz=1.02&psd=W251bGwsbnVsbCxudWxsLDNd&ifi=5&uci=a!5&btvi=4&fsb=1&dtd=7329
In a recent interview with USA Today, he shared insights into his current endeavors, revealing that he now works as a stockbroker in Phoenix. He continues to live with his wife Amber, whom he met at the daycare where his children were enrolled.
His older children divide their time between his residence and their mother’s home, located approximately ten miles away.
According to Thomas, he lives a relatively quiet life but once in a while, he does public-speaking jobs and takes on modest acting opportunities.
Looking back on the whirlwind of attention that surrounded him 16 years ago when he graced the front pages, Thomas acknowledged the lasting impact of those significant moments in his life.
à quel métier/rôle j’ai l’air? ?️ What profession or role do I look like?
Posted by Thomas Trace Beatie on Tuesday, May 30, 2023
Reflecting on the past, Thomas, now in his 50s, remarked: “When my story came out, there wasn’t a single person in the public eye as a transgender man — most people had never heard of it.”
”This was pre-Chaz Bono. This was pre-Caitlyn Jenner. This was before anyone knew anything. It was a first exposure for a lot of people. And then on top of that, they can give birth! I think exposing the importance of fertility for trans people was a huge eye-opener.”
”Everything was a whirlwind,” he said. ”But I still don’t regret it,” Thomas shared.
My Bridesmaids Were Secretly Passing Something to My Husband at Our Wedding – By the End of the Night, He Ended Our Marriage
They say you don’t just marry a person — you marry their family. If only someone had warned me how true that would be, maybe I wouldn’t have ended up in tears, clutching my wedding dress in an empty apartment the night my husband accused me of the one thing I’d never done.
I’m 27, and six months ago, I moved across the country to be with my fiancé, Adam. At 29, he seemed to have everything figured out — a steady job, loyal friends, and a family that adored him.
A happy couple | Source: Pexels
He grew up in this quaint little town where everyone knew each other, and while it was intimidating at first, I told myself I could make it work. After all, Adam was my everything. Moving here felt like the natural next step in our love story.
Wedding planning was… a ride. From the moment Adam proposed, his older sister, Beth, practically took over. At 31, she had this air of authority that made it hard to push back.
Man proposing to his girlfriend | Source: Pexels
“Trust me, you’ll need the help,” she’d said with a knowing smile when I hesitated. And honestly? She wasn’t wrong. Planning a wedding is stressful. Plus, Beth seemed to know everyone in town—florists, photographers, even the guy who made custom invitations.
It was like having my own small-town wedding planner.
Still, something felt off when Beth casually insisted her childhood friends, Sarah, Kate, and Olivia, be my bridesmaids, despite me barely knowing them.
“They’re family,” Beth explained. “They’ll make your life easier.”
Wedding planner and bride to be talking | Source: Midjourney
Looking back, that might’ve been my first mistake.
The decision to let Beth and her friends be my bridesmaids wasn’t one I made lightly. It felt strange, to hand over such an intimate role to people I barely knew.
But Beth had a way of making things sound reasonable. “You don’t have many people here yet,” she’d said, patting my hand like a big sister. “Let us help. It’ll make Adam happy too.”
So, I agreed.
Women having a conversation | Source: Mdijourney
The wedding day started like a dream. The sun kissed the horizon as I got ready, the venue glowed with soft fairy lights, and my dress… oh, my dress. I caught my reflection in the mirror and gasped. For a moment, everything felt perfect.
But then, there were the bridesmaids.
It started as small things. Whispered conversations that stopped as soon as I walked into the room. Glances exchanged between Sarah and Kate that felt odd.
I tried to shake it off. Maybe I’m just overthinking. It was my wedding day. I had enough on my plate without worrying about cryptic bridesmaids’ behavior.
Bride and her bridesmaids | Source: Midjourney
But during the reception, things got weirder. While I was chatting with my aunt, I caught Sarah walking up to Adam. She handed him something—small, wrapped in what looked like tissue paper. He gave her a quick nod and slipped it into his pocket.
“What was that?” I asked Sarah later, my voice light but curious.
“Oh, just something for the honeymoon,” she said with a wink. “You’ll see.”
Kate had been teasing me about their “ultimate gift” all week, so I tried to laugh it off. “You all are so mysterious,” I said. But deep down, unease settled in my stomach.
Bride and her bridesmaids having a conversation | Source: Midjourney
By the third time, I saw one of them pass Adam something, I couldn’t ignore it. What were they giving him? And why did they seem so secretive about it?
The reception should have been magical. I should have been twirling under the lights, laughing with Adam, surrounded by love and joy. Instead, I spent half the night watching my husband—the man I’d just promised to spend forever with—drift further away from me.
“Adam, come dance with me!” I called to him at one point, waving him over to the dance floor. He hesitated, looking over at Beth, who gave him a subtle nod.
Emotionally distant groom looking at his bride | Source: Midjourney
“In a minute,” he said, his tone tight. Then he turned back to her and the bridesmaids.
My best friend, Megan, who was among the guests, leaned over and whispered, “Is it just me, or is your husband acting… weird?”
I swallowed hard. “It’s not just you.”
By the time we were supposed to cut the cake, the tension was unbearable. That’s when Adam grabbed my hand and pulled me aside. His face was pale, his eyes avoiding mine.
Bride and groom having a fight | Source: Midjourney
“We need to talk,” he said. His voice was low.
“Talk about what Adam,” I asked, forcing a nervous laugh.
“I can’t do this,” he said, his words hitting like a slap.
I froze. “Can’t do what?” My voice cracked as panic crept in.
“This marriage.” His eyes finally met mine, and they were full of something I couldn’t quite name. Anger? Sadness?
I felt like the air had been sucked out of the room. “What are you talking about?”
“I know what you’ve been hiding.”
“Hiding?” I repeated, my voice rising in disbelief. “Adam, what—”
Bride and groom having a fight | Source: Midjourney
He reached into his pocket and pulled out several envelopes. My blood ran cold as he laid out their contents: photos, screenshots, even a receipt.
The first photo was of me walking out of a café, laughing with a man I didn’t recognize. The next showed us sitting close together at what looked like a dinner table. Then came a grainy shot of me entering a hotel lobby, supposedly with the same man.
“Adam, I’ve never—”
“Stop lying,” he cut me off, throwing down a stack of printed screenshots.
For illustration purposes only | Source: Midjourney
I picked one up, my hands shaking. It was a text conversation, supposedly between me and this mystery man.
Him: Can’t wait to see you again, beautiful.
Me: Last night was amazing. Same time next week?
Another text showed plans for a hotel meeting, along with a confirmation email for a room booked under my name.
“This is insane,” I whispered. “This isn’t me, Adam. Someone—someone faked this.”
Emotional bride talking to her groom | Source: Midjourney
His laugh was bitter and humorless. “Faked? You expect me to believe this?”
Tears blurred my vision. “I don’t even know that man! Adam, please, you have to believe me!”
But he just shook his head. “I don’t know what’s worse—that you think I’m stupid enough to fall for your lies or that you did this to us in the first place.”
By the end of the night, Adam stood in front of the guests and announced, “There’s been a change of plans. The wedding is off.”
Emotional groom | Source: Midjourney
Gasps filled the room. I couldn’t even look at anyone as I ran out of the venue, my dress snagging on the steps, tears blurring my vision. My fairy tale had turned into a public nightmare.
Megan rushed toward me, her face pale with shock. The once beautiful decorations became a blur as Megan guided me past clusters of whispering guests.
Emotional bride running | Source: Midjourney
In the car, Megan didn’t ask questions. She didn’t push me to explain. She just handed me tissues and stayed silent as sobs wracked my body. “How did this happen?” I choked out eventually. “What did I do to deserve this?”
“You didn’t do anything,” Megan said firmly, her voice thick with anger. “This is on Adam. And Beth. And all of them. Not you.”
But it didn’t feel that way.
Sad bride talking to her friend in the car | Source: Midjourney
The days that followed were a haze of misery. I barely ate and barely slept. Every time I closed my eyes, I saw Adam’s face, cold and unforgiving.
My mom gave me all the support I needed. “I’m here, sweetheart,” she whispered. “I’ve got you.”
I sobbed into her shoulder, the pain pouring out in waves. “Mom, he doesn’t believe me,” I cried. “He thinks I’m a liar, a cheat—”
Emotional woman talking to her mother | Source: Midjourney
“Then he doesn’t know you,” she said fiercely, pulling back to look me in the eye. “And if he doesn’t know the incredible woman you are, then he’s the fool, not you.”
Megan stayed too, her protective energy like a shield around me.
But nothing eased the ache in my chest. Nothing could undo the humiliation of being cast aside on my wedding day.
And then one day, Sarah called.
Woman on phone | Source: Midjourney
Sarah’s voice cracked as she spoke, guilt pouring through the phone like a confession she’d held onto for too long. “Beth… she planned everything. The texts, the photos, all of it. It was her idea.”
I clutched the phone tighter. “What do you mean, planned everything?” My voice was sharp, but my heart pounded in disbelief.
“She said she needed to protect Adam,” Sarah said. “She called you a gold-digger, said you weren’t good enough for him. She thought if he married you, he’d regret it forever.”
Woman on phone | Source: Midjourney
“Protect him?” I repeated, my voice rising. “By destroying me? By humiliating me in front of everyone?”
“I know. I know,” Sarah said, tears audible in her voice. “We didn’t know… we thought she was telling the truth. Beth showed us fake screenshots, fake photos. She said you’d deny it, that you’d gaslight Adam if he confronted you. We thought we were helping him.”
“You thought ruining my life was helping?,” I asked my voice full of anger.
“I didn’t know the truth until after the wedding,” Sarah said quickly. “I’m so sorry. I found out Beth hired someone to stage those photos. And the texts? She made them herself.”
Woman talking on phone | Source: Midjourney
I sank into my chair, shaking as Sarah sent me the screenshots of their group chat. There it was, in black and white: Beth orchestrating everything. Messages detailing how to present the “evidence,” coaching the bridesmaids on how to act, and laughing about how I’d “never see it coming.”
The following day, when I confronted Adam with the proof, his face crumpled. “Beth… did this?” he asked, his voice hollow. “Why would she—”
“She wanted to protect you,” I said bitterly, tossing the phone onto the table. “From me, apparently.”
Woman and a man having a conversation | Source: Midjourney
Adam dropped to his knees, tears streaming down his face. “I didn’t know. I swear I didn’t know. Please, let me fix this. I’ll cut Beth out of my life—I’ll do anything. Just give me another chance.”
But I couldn’t. His choice to believe them over me, to humiliate me without even hearing my side, had shattered something too deep to repair.
“I can’t, Adam,” I said quietly. “You didn’t trust me when it mattered most. And I can’t build a life on that.”
Woman and a man having a conversation | Source: Midjourney
A few days later, I packed my things, left the city, and moved back home to my family. Slowly, I started piecing my life back together. Adam’s calls and emails still come, but I don’t answer.
Love without trust isn’t love—it’s a gamble. And I’ve learned to stop betting on people who don’t believe in me.
If you take anything from my story, let it be this: the family you marry into matters just as much as the person you marry. Choose wisely.
Stressed woman | Source: Midjourney
If you enjoyed this story, here’s another one you might like: I showed up to my wedding only to find my mom in a wedding dress holding a bouquet.
This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.
The author and publisher make no claims to the accuracy of events or the portrayal of characters and are not liable for any misinterpretation. This story is provided as “is,” and any opinions expressed are those of the characters and do not reflect the views of the author or publisher.
Leave a Reply