Sonia Todd of Moscow, Idaho, died of cancer at the young age of 38. But knowing the end was near, she decided to write her own obituary before passing away. As she explained, obituaries were usually written a couple of different ways that she simply didn’t care for. So, as one of her last acts on this earth, she put pen to paper and decided for herself how her obituary would read.
The result of Sonia confronting her own mortality as she penned her obituary was a piece full of humor as well as wisdom, appearing in the Moscow-Pullman Daily News. The words were so honest and inspirational that long after her death, they will still ring true, giving others something to aspire to. Ironically, Sonia wrote, “I never really accomplished anything of note.” How wrong she was. The truth expressed in the obituary she wrote proved to be quite an accomplishment in and of itself.
“Other than giving birth to my two wonderful, lovable, witty and amazing sons (James and Jason), marrying my gracious, understanding and precious husband (Brian), and accepting the Lord Jesus Christ as my personal savior – I have done very little. None of which requires obit space that I have to shell out money for,” Sonia Todd began, explaining why she was writing her obituary and why it wouldn’t be like others.
Adding that she didn’t want a bunch of her loved ones sitting around to write a glowing report of her, which she says would be “filled with fish tales, half-truths, impossible scenarios, and out-right-honest-to-goodness-lies,” Sonia explained she simply didn’t like putting people in those kinds of situations. With the explanation out of the way, she got to her version of the truth about her own life.
“I just tried to do the best I could. Sometimes I succeeded, most of the time I failed, but I tried. For all of my crazy comments, jokes and complaints, I really did love people. The only thing that separates me from anyone else is the type of sin each of us participated in. I didn’t always do the right thing or say the right thing and when you come to the end of your life those are the things you really regret, the small simple things that hurt other people,” Sonia admitted.
Although she said that she mostly enjoyed life, she also said it wasn’t perfect and that she encountered many bumps in the road, especially in her teens and early 20s. Even though some parts of her life were harder than others, Sonia said, “I learned something from every bad situation and I couldn’t do any more than that.” She also claimed there were benefits to dying young. Jokingly, she wrote, “I still owe on my student loans and the jokes on them cuz I’m not paying them. Plus, I am no longer afraid of serial killers, telemarketers or the IRS.”Addressing the fact that some people have told her that writing her own obituary is morbid, Sonia Todd continued, “I think it is great because I get a chance to say thank you to all the people who helped me along the way. Those who loved me, assisted me, cared for me, laughed with me and taught me things so that I could have a wonderful, happy life. I was blessed beyond measure by knowing all of you. That is what made my life worthwhile.”
It was the conclusion of her obituary that was the most important, however. Sonia encouraged others to change their lives. “If you think of me, and would like to do something in honor of my memory do this: Volunteer at a school, church or library. Write a letter to someone and tell them how they have had a positive effect on your life. If you smoke – quit. If you drink and drive – stop,” she wrote.
Her advise continued, “Turn off the electronics and take a kid out for ice cream and talk to them about their hopes and dreams. Forgive someone who doesn’t deserve it. Stop at all lemonade-stands run by kids and brag about their product. Make someone smile today if it is in your power to do so.”
Today seems like a good day to honor Sonia’s memory by completing some of these simple requests and reminding others to do the same. Luckily for us, we still have time for these things. And, thankfully, with her dying wish, Sonia Todd left us these words of wisdom that few realize until it’s too late
Alan Jackson: A Story of Resilience and Triumph
The iconic 64-year-old country music hero Alan Jackson has captured the hearts of millions of people for more than 40 years with his timeless fusion of classic country music and honky-tonk rhythms. It is understandable that he has sold over 80 million records during his successful career given his immense contributions to the genre. However, his accomplishment is actually the result of a tale of perseverance and success in the face of hardship.
To the surprise of his devoted fan following, Alan disclosed last year that he had been diagnosed with a degenerative neurological condition. This information was received at a time when he and his family were still dealing with the untimely death of Mattie Jackson Selecman’s father, Ben Selecman. The family is still in deep grief over this terrible loss.
Despite these significant obstacles, Alan Jackson has used music as a means of self-expression and emotional healing. His albums “Where Have You Gone” (2021) and “Angels & Alcohol” (2015) are permanently marked by these very personal encounters. Alan honors the enduring love and priceless memories of those he has lost via his artistic creations.
As an Assistant District Attorney at the Davidson County District Attorney’s office, Ben Selecman was a rising star in his field. His sense of humor and unwavering dedication to his career are remembered with fondness by his colleagues. Everyone who knew him feels profoundly bereaved and left with a huge hole in their life.
Mattie Jackson, the daughter of Alan Jackson, has found comfort in her religion and her father’s unyielding support throughout this tragic time. They worked together on a strong song called “Racing the Dark,” which was a first for the father-daughter combination. This moving song is particularly meaningful to them both and is proof of the resilience that can arise even in the most painful circumstances.
Additionally, Mattie used her sorrow to fuel an incredible project by co-founding NaSHEville, a company that aims to empower women in Music City. “Lemons on Friday: Trusting God Through My Greatest Heartbreak,” her upcoming book, is a chronicle of her path of recovery and self-discovery. In this moving book, Mattie discusses her life’s extreme challenges, her spirit’s tenacity, and how these things helped her discover a new strength and purpose.
In a moving preface to the book, Alan and his wife, New York Times best-selling novelist Denise Jackson, discuss their own experiences and how they were able to find comfort and healing following the death of a family member. For others traversing the perilous waters of loss, their own journey serves as a beacon of hope.
Alan Jackson is adamant about his love of music and his desire to keep sharing it with the world even as he navigates his own health issues, particularly Charcot-Marie-Tooth syndrome, a degenerative nerve condition. The superstar of country music faces physical challenges as a result of this illness, but he is not letting it stop him from following his love. Alan’s steadfast dedication is evidence of his fortitude and willpower.
Let us offer Alan Jackson and his family our condolences and best wishes during these difficult times. We are appreciative of his music’s inspirational and joyful effects on our lives as fans. As we look forward to his upcoming performances and hold onto the classic songs that have become our lives’ soundtrack, may he find strength in the love and support of his loyal fan base.
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